Today my oldest sister asked me to help her getting sand bags on her truck along with my other sister and her husband. I tell her I just woke up but I’ll be there. I arrive there in 30 minutes and the oldest one tells me “we’ve been waiting” but I just ignore it. Then tells everyone “look he’s wearing his expensive shoes” and I ask her “do you want me to go?” as I climb in the truck to get the sang bags and place them correctly. The other sisters, didn’t even say hi when I arrived, says “you don’t have to be here if you don’t want to”. So then I just left. Idk what I did was wrong but I’m so tired of taking this disrespect. They do help me a lot financially when I’m trouble so I feel like I owe it to them but my mental health is more important because I’ve been diagnosed with depression before and finally making a recovery but they don’t really understand any of that. I wanted to know if I did the right thing or if there’s a way I could’ve made the situation better. I feel like I was trying to help and they made it toxic as soon as I got there.
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Honestly I feel like this is the best you could do. You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate and this was a case of reinforcing you won’t tolerate them giving you shit as soon as you show up to help.
If you’re accepting financial help you’re kind of stuck accepting their insults/attitude.
However you should respond to it with attitude of your own. A big smile: “I’m here to help! I was hoping everyone would be in a better mood!”
Them: “You don’t have to be here if you don’t want to.”
You (Big smile): “There’s no place I’d rather be! Never fear, Sandbag Man is here!”
Responding to insults with good cheer and humor is always a better bet than sulking or reacting in kind.