It feels like 90% of these questions can be solved with a very simple sit-down with your dating or relationship partner, asking *them* about your problem. Starting to feel like I’m at my IT job and I’m asking someone [if they turned it off and on again](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5UT8RkSmN4k). You should be performing “maintenance tasks” first before coming to Reddit for advice, if you’ve already talked about this problem and been rebuffed, *then* come to Reddit.
If you can’t communicate with a potential partner, you’re going to have a rough time.
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Agreed. Granted if someone wants a healthy relationship the last place I would expect them to come is Reddit but I digress lol
Says the fellow with a bluetooth controlled sex toy lol
Yes and no. Talking is part 1. The person you’re talking to taking action to change their behaviors is part 2. But yes, at the very bare minimum, communicating your needs/issues is crucial
I’ve done this before, and it takes a lot of courage. In the end, though, I only ended up making a fool of myself.
I think those people (posters) know that they have to talk the person and communicate.
I think many of them are actually wondering how to broach the subject.
This is a common refrain but it’s 100% ok for people without relationship experience, good friends, or older siblings to come here to get a better understanding about the relevant issues that might come up in such a discussion. A rehearsal, if you will. The sub is here for all.
Gotta successfully talk to SOMEONE first.
Using words is apparently hard.
I agree with this. Communication is inportant for a relationship to work
Will hitchhike this with agreement and offering that It is really helpful to consider the issue against whether or not you really know what it is that you are trying to figure out.
Next to quality communication… Knowing your self and what you are actually trying to accomplish or have for a given circumstance is a game changer for a relationship.
It’s difficult to find a resolution on some thing when the true issue is still hidden.
All the best to you all! ✌️
ya but the word “him” should be eliminated in this because men will no doubt forever be expected to start an interaction with the opposite sex, that unfair gender role will never change no doubt
Yeah too bad with these talks, you very rarely get the honest truth…
This has been said before. This is the second time I’ve seen this.
> You should be performing “maintenance tasks” first before coming to Reddit for advice, if you’ve already talked about this problem and been rebuffed, *then* come to Reddit.
OR maybe you’re looking to modify a business-critical system and you’re coming here first because you don’t want to test in production 👍