I (17F) would say that I am good at first impressions: people laugh at my jokes, I’ve been told that I’m fun and charismatic. I find it very easy to talk to people. I have a lot of “friends”. I do genuinely like all of them.
However, I don’t think I have ever formed a deeper bond with anyone (except maybe my cat). I don’t think I have any friends who I could talk to about my problems. All my relationships feel incredibly superficial. I have no shortage of people to sit with at lunch, yet no one to confide in at all. Why is this?
Has anyone else had this problem? And how to fix it?
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had the same problem when i was younger. a deep connection don’t happen in a short time. imagine a connection like an onion. everytime you talking to someone this person reveal something from himself and vise versa. if you share the same interest you remove one layer of this onion and so on. maybe you both will reach a lvl where almost all layers are removed. and that’s a deep connection. the problem with me was that everytime someone wasn’t the person which i created in my head, i closed a layer of this onion. the reason behind this was because i didn’t trusted people. maybe deep down you have something similar.