I am 22(F) and my bf wants to do anal with me. I’ve done it about 3 times with him actually finishing with a few more attempts which ended in me stopping him because it was either painful or uncomfortable. I want to ask women who have done anal with their man and enjoyed it, how did you enjoy it? I want to do it more but it hurts and feels like I’m reverse pooping. Please give me advice.
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First of all, no one has to like anal. Some people just don’t. This is not the kind of thing you force yourself to enjoy like broccoli. That being said, the secret to enjoying anal is prep. Cleaning, toys, fingers, lube, baby steps one night after another. Jumping into full PIA is a recipe for disaster.
If it hurts then don’t do it.
1 – lube outside (easy), inside (difficult) and the penis/fingers/buttplug (often forgotten)
2 – choose a good silicone based lube like Exxtreme Glide Silicone, Pjur Backdoor, Uberlube… to get your comfort
3 – Relax. A great way to do it is having an orgasm beforehand…
4 – At first, keep the anal intercourse part short (time wise) to avoid muscle soreness.
5 – Have him start slowly.
6 – Think about your orgasm:
6.1 – Anal + stimulation of the clitoris
6.2 – Anal + indirect g-spot stimulation (prone bone position is good for that)
6.3 – Simulated dp. A dildo inside your vagina that gets pushed inside with each thrust of his into your tushy. (100% orgasm chance for my wife!).
7 – Using a buttplug during piv is a pleasurable way to enjoy and getting used to your body. Just choose a buttplug with a long and slender neck for comfort.
8 – Have baby wipes at hand to avoid being preoccupied and not focusing on pleasure.
9 – Have fun!
If you’re not curious from the start, you won’t like it in the end
.You don’t want to try because you want to
You try because your partner likes it
Make a deal with him, tell him I want to put Dildo in your ass
Then you will know the answer
Well, I’m a guy but my ex got better at handling it by practicing by herself with toys for a while. When I say a while, I mean almost a year lol. It takes a lot of time to learn how to relax the asshole. I recommend going back to vaginal sex with your BF and practicing by yourself with toys for a while. Oh and use a lot of lube. Downvote away, I don’t care. This is what worked for her.
Really? I am a man almost 70 years old. I’ve tried anal with a women only 3 times at their request. I don’t see the purpose of it. It’s not reactive and responsive like a vagina. It doesn’t give you those subtle clues that your doing it right like a vagina that moves and gives clues that you have the right angle and rhythm. A vagina grips and pulsates with the woman’s orgasm. Anal sex is as exciting as making a circle with your index finger and thumb and wanking with some lube. Rub a little Limburger cheese for the aroma too.
Anal should NEVER be painful or something is not right. Either you are not relaxed, warmed up, or not using enough lube.