im a 20 year old male with ASD, and to nobody’s surprise i have numerous niche hyperfixations to go along with it. the main one, my main hobby, is speedrunning. im extremely good at it, im highly competitive, hold multiple world records, and have a decently-sized twitch channel that i stream to. unfortunately for me, speedrunning isnt the most marketable hobby. especially since i mostly run sonic games, which i feel makes me come off childish. this is, however, my main hyperfixation. i love speedrunning and i dedicate an unholy amount of my time to perfecting my gameplay and hanging out with the friends ive made through it. making online dating profiles becomes very hard, as i cant just ignore the fact that this is such a big part of me. a profile where i dont mention gaming at all would be insincere and rather hollow. but a profile where i do mention it paints me as, for lack of a better word, a loser. i really dont know how to navigate this, and any advice at all would be appreciated
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Lots of people 2 and 3x your age are avid gamers….and in many cases their romantic partner/spouse is not. There are also tons of female gamers. Just put it on your profile as an interest. It’s okay to mention it and to even talk about your impressive accomplishments. As long as you don’t come off as not being interested in literally anything else it’s not a problem. People in a relationship can, will and should have different interests, including things they’re passionate about. Just work on having other things to talk about and, most importantly, show interest in the other person and in learning about and getting to know them.
>my main hobby, is speedrunning.
Kinda like speedwalking, but the feet leave the ground?
> especially since i mostly run sonic game
You compete with Sonic the Hedgehog? Impressive!!
You mention dating profile(s) — do you pick up girls in person, too?
The reality is that dating apps are for matching you with potential people, not a matchmaker service to find you a perfect partner. Your profile should be good enough to interest someone in going on a date with you. The flow is kinda like this: Match > Briefly chat to prove you are not a weirdo creep > go on date and decide if you two are compatible. If you omit the gaming stuff from the profile, you can bring it up on the actual date.