I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 1.5 year now. I’ve experience the happiest and healthiest relationship with him.
While I don’t believe in overly publicising about my personal life, sometimes I get the urge of posting a picture of ours from a trip/date evening/happy times.
I always get a strange feeling that – all my previous partners who follow me on social media would feel hurt on seeing me with him and might consider me a worse person.
One reason for this fear is – I met some great people in my early 20s with whom I had a memorable time but didn’t experience an alignment and ended up leaving them without much communication/explanation.
While I genuinely am guilty of hurting them and have apologised and rebuilt a healthy friendly connection, it still scares me to be talking about my new relationship.
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Why even follow your exes/have them follow you? It’s done for. They also have their own partners now. Do they also never post?
That is a weird sense of loyalty.
Enjoy the moment. Post what you wish.
I get the same feeling. I know it’s not great but I just don’t want to be the thing that causes more hurt for them. Maybe it’s because I know I wasn’t a great partner while in the relationship, it would feel like rubbing their face in it. Especially if I don’t know if they’re happy. I really hope they are happy.
There a lot of things going on here. First you are make the assumption that these exes are still holding on to something be it small or big. If you have rebuilt a healthy friendship with them should be happy for you. Why do you think they are all still hung up on you to feel this way? Would you feel this way of one of your exes started dating someone a posted one or two photos together because they are happy?
Second, you are putting the potential feelings of your exes over your current partner. What if your partner said that you shouldn’t wear anything nice because he doesn’t want his exes to feel like you are pretty then them.
Its going to happen eventually and if not what are you going to do? On wedding day not have photos or put paper bag over his face so your exes can imagine themselves up there?