edit: sorry if itâs too long if youâre too lazy to read i feel you i never read big paragraph post either haha so hereâs everything i talked ab: buddisum, meditation, journaling, explain why i stopped caring, confidence, mindset when talking, omegle, stop shit talking, medication
i wrote mostly ab things i didnât read while trynna search for answered to get better at my social anxiety
-got into **buddhism**, well.. i just read a bunch of books that were made by monks. that definitely changed my perspective and lowered my anxiety.
-I got into **meditation** as well, shit changed my life, get into it fucking works..
-i also started to **journal** ab my entire life, you learn a lot and you can see kinda who you really are once you reread it. one of my biggest problems is not knowing who i was, iâd shape-shift and become like them to whoever iâm talking to to fit their eyes so they can like me.. realizing that made me find my personality and finding my personality made me confident
*i stopped caring what people say because of confidence because i realized we were all born in this one planet naked and pure, we were all kids and that child self is still in there, every single person has the smallest detailed memory of a specific thing only they know ab, and theyâve went through all the emotions but in a different situations as you, realizing your a special spec of dust in a huge universe really really is a good mindset to keep, wonât fix the problem might help you get through it.*
-**CONFIDENCE**
huge huge huge for me, i had 0. i thought anything i say or do will deathly embarrass me.. i actually didnât even say that in my head to myself i felt it in my anxiety and once i realized i did care what think or say helped me fix it better. took time to get it but worth it
**you have to get into this **mindset** thatâs a whole different mindset when anxious itâs hard to explain but when youâre talking to someone close.. you, not once, think âwhat should i sayâ because itâs ab flow itâs ab letting thoughts come to you not looking for it everywhere because you already have the talent to talk bro you do it everyday. something iâd tell myself is âthis isnât an impossible hard thing to do we evolved to talk it isnât just gunna poof away cuz i didnât have enough of itâ when youâre in this mindset you arenât thinking ab yourself like physically ,, not how you talk, what you should or shouldnât say, that little thing making you second guess everything you say or do. itâs a mind place where you donât exist only the conversation youâre in**
-also i started caring more on what people were telling me and less of caring what my mind makes me think. donât be in your head trynna think of what to say. EASIER SAID THAN DONE it takes time and practice, same w confidence
-**omegleee** i was TERRRRIFFIEDDD of omegle but i swallowed my ego to go on there and i just tried making convo w every single person i met. horribly awkward at first but ah! skip button đ i got wayyy better w being less quiet cuz i realized if someone talks to you itâs cuz they actually want a conversate.. stupid.. but.. didnât fucking know thatđ„Č and it made me see how unscary it is just to say anything !
-**medication!!** i will be forever thankful for medication that completely zapped my anxiety away. i kinda fixed my anxiety so much before meds but meds was just the cherry on top.. iâm not amazing at talking i learned to be okay w that i learned to be okay w that weird look people give you when you speak for the first time or when i say something that doesnât make sense.
**my thoughts were blank** and that was my biggest problem at first, i didnât know what to say cuz i had nothing to say. i was trynna force it and that never works. donât say anything till you have something to say⊠it took me a while to pass this phase cuz i couldnât stop forcing it cuz i worried that they wouldnât like me.
-**STOP talking shit.** i used to judge people in my head all the time w out realizing, i started to ask myself why do i care so much?? oh shit cuz i do it all the time. thatâs the only reason why i think theyâre doing it too.
listen. i promise! once you start saying words youâll see how opening people are. remember you arenât here to make people happy, youâre here to find your happiness and for now we gotta practice because youâre healing yourself and no one can hurry that
iâm not sure how many people will see this i hope i help at least one person. i just remember being in so much pain cuz of social anxiety.. id never thought iâd be the one giving some tips cuz i used to go into this subreddit all the time to find answers :,) *check my account and see the last post i made*
and last thing
my sister said this âjust talkâ. i heard it a million times but.. that last time something clicked and itâs literally just say a n y t h i n g i promise itâll be okayđđ if youâre still reading this this post was exactly for you. if no one reads it.. itâs for my passed self whoâd cry every night cuz i felt and was painfully lonely
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This post gives me anxiety