Today I saw a post on this subreddit saying,”I found a love” as the title. And “I don’t need this subreddit anymore, thank you for being with me at my lowest” as the discription.
What makes you think that finding a love is enough..and after finding your significant other you won’t be needing anymore social skills?
Self improvement is what makes you better- being better is what makes you attract people towards you. If you stop your growth- no one will be attracted towards you. Who is going to be with someone who is not willing to move forward?
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Imo it’s kind of hard to point at any causality, maybe from having a close person as part of their support system they are able to shine their true selves more often, or maybe this is a temporary distraction that is conditional.
Maybe they’re mistaking the confidence others give them as their own self-confidence, which could possibly be masking low self-esteem.
Cuz those people were looking at social skills as means to an end. And the particular goal they had was “relationship”. And they foolishly assume that “new relationship” endorphins will sail them through any future disagreement/misunderstanding/resurfacing of old trauma/etc.
i saw that too and i was like i’m in a long term relationship and i’m still on this sub ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ i just need help LMFAO
Maybe they just set this one goal: “I want to get into a relationship” and use social just as a tool to reach this specific goal.
When they reach this goal, there is no motivation left because they got what they wanted.
And then they forget that a realtionship also requires work and that it is never a good idea to rely on only one thing for the own well being.
At leas I imagin it this way. I dont really have experience with romantic relationships.
The simple answer is because they feel like someone has their back and they feel emboldened. Strength is in numbers