So I am a 21 year old student in a foreign country…In January I started doing martial arts and I met a girl there that I really liked. I am kind of an introvert so I did not initiate conversation in the begining but then slowly we started talking and we were training together every day. I became more consistent in going to the classes as well coz I loved training with her. We started talking outside the class as well about various topics apart from martial arts.
Then came May and semester was about to end and I was kinda feeling sad that I won’t be able to meet her but she was so good to me on our final days there and kind of reassured me that we are friends. Then we both went to intern at different places for the summer. I thought the conversation would stop over the summer but we still kept talking. She showed me everything she was doing there. I was sharing all my experiences. We both are deeply passionate about martial arts and we kept each other focused on improving as well.
Then summer ended and the fall semester began. We were talking normally for the first few weeks but then I started noticing a change. She was not coming to the gym and whenever I messaged her either ignored me or started giving some excuses. I asked her do you want to train together sometime over the weekend and she said no she is very sick and doesn’t want to infect me. I thought okay maybe she is sick. I even offered if you need any medicines or any help just let me know.
I am really into martial arts and wanted a training partner so I joined a discord group of my university where people usually post if they want to train. I am new to discord and I did not know how it worked but you can even see messages from the past in a group and there I saw that for the past few weeks this girl was very active and on the same day she told me that she was sick she was asking someone to go out.
I felt really bad. I am still kinda in shock and can’t process it. I asked her where we usually chatted that what happened and why did she have to lie and I thought we were friends. She did not reply for 2 days and then messaged me that friendship is only done when you have a need or a reason and now since she does not train at the same gym there is no reason to be friends anymore.
At the moment, I couldn’t even understand what it meant, I started saying sorry if there is some other issue but then she blocked me on the app.
I am feeling really bad now. Can someone please help me understand what happened here and what should I do?