My gf is still close friends with her ex, who she had a long-term relationship with in the past. As far as I know, she still talks/texts/interacts with him often (daily almost). I’ve voiced how it irritates me and makes me uncomfortable that they talk a lot but she always reassures me that it’s completely platonic. I’ve never met the guy so i don’t truly know the dynamic of their relationship and I don’t know if I’ll get over this negative feeling I have towards this situation (I feel it’s only natural being her current partner). What should I do? She says I have nothing to worry about and I do trust her. I also don’t want to come off as controlling. My biggest fear is this guy somehow interferes with our relationship. Any advice helps. Thanks!
TL;DR gf is still friends with ex and it makes me uncomfortable. Am I overthinking or should I be worried?
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Many women can be friends and not have a sexual relationship but you get too hung up on that
You can easily drive a wired in your relationship you definitely need to talk to her about it and probably meet with them both at the same time and tell how you feel about the situation the problem is feelings can’t automatically be turned off you mean you only get reassurance and if you’re still having doubts maybe you should think about breaking this off
You are looking at this the wrong way.
You *say* you trust her, but then keep voicing *lack of trust* in your approach to her friendly relationship with her ex.
Why would it be any kind of red flag to know that she can stay friends with an ex? Would you rather they have screaming drama, or a bitter breakup, blocking each other, etc.?
The ability to end a romantic relationship amiably is a *good* sign, not a bad one.
Amigo, no hagas caso, no estás obligado a soportar una situación que te incómoda, debes hablar con ella, decirle cómo te sientes y después si ella decide continuar esa dinámica, debes tomar una decisión, lo aceptas o terminas la relación, ella no está obligada a dejar de tenerlo de amigo y tu no estás obligado a tolerarlo, quizás solo no sean compatibles, para eso uno se pone de novio, para ver la compatibilidad