For quick context my godsister has always been an attention seeker. She and a few other female family members were at my house recently. I (21 m) had to leave to go to work. While I was gone my godsister (20f) made up stories how I cheat on my gf and smoke a lot. When in reality I speak to my godsister 4-5 times out the year. So even if it was true she would be the last to know. I’m very hurt by this and I feel so angry and I don’t know what to do. I’m don’t want to hear her side of it or speak to her at all. I don’t know if I should tbh. But I also want answers as to why. What should I do?
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It’s hard to tell why she did that. Maybe she was seeking attention (as you said), maybe she was trying to deflect from something she did, maybe she hates you and wants to ruin your reputation, maybe she enjoys causing drama, maybe some or all of the above?
The only thing you can do is distance yourself from her. You don’t need to be mean to her, but avoid her whenever you can and do not give her info about your life. If you have to talk to her, just talk about the weather. If you find out that other family members are telling her info about you, look into drawing that same boundary with them too.
It sucks, but you really cannot control other people. Shitty people will be shitty no matter what. Just draw boundaries and keep their shittiness out of your life as much as possible.
You could try to ignore it and play it cool to people by saying,”can you believe she said I cheated? It’s ridiculous.” And just move on. Sometimes giving attention seekers any attention just gives them what they want and it never ends.