Do you tell her if her cooking is bad, why or why not?

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1. Only tell your wife her cooking sucks if you don’t want her to cook anymore.

   Just light suggestions. VERY light.

2. You mean she does not realize it herself, so I just dont like it personally?

3. You want a death sentence?

4. 26 years, we’re married. I do not. I thank her for dinner, keep my mouth shut and eat what’s on the table. She knows how it tastes and can decide for herself; why should I say anything? On the rare occasion that she thinks her cooking is inedible – when she admits to herself it doesn’t taste like she’d hoped – I let her know that I appreciate her hard work and I eat it anyway. That is how you stay married for a hundred years.

5. Hell yea

6. First of all, you should always be appreciative any time a person goes through the effort of cooking something for you. It’s just being respectful.

   That said, It’s not disrespectful to inquire about how the dish was made and offer guidance or suggestions in a nice manner. Like if the fish she cooked tastes like ass, ask her how she did it. Then explain what you normally do differently or what you’ve seen other people do. Not in a condescending “your food sucks” sort of way, but more of a “Oh that’s interesting, I’ve never tried putting fish in the microwave, I usually wrap it in tinfoil with a lot of butter and put it in the oven to let it steam. I heard that helps to keep the fish moist.”

7. Absolutely, but in a tactful way.

8. Do you value your life ? if so , dont tell her !

9. Yes you do unless you wanna eat shit meals for the rest of your life or take over cooking if you think you can do better. Thing is don’t be a dick about it. Say booty this is good, next time let’s try doing suggestion. Or youtube how to make that dish. I used to and still cook a lot of steak. I didn’t know what a great steak really was until I went to a restaurant that was around $200 a plate. I ordered steak, asked for A1, the waiter asked me kindly to have a bite before I ruin a masterpiece. Totally blew my mind with how good it was. Then I learned for free online how to make great steak, and it’s way easier than you think.

10. Tread very carefully … navigating a minefield is probably easier 😉

11. I’m the guy and I like to cook. I want honest feedback, but “good” or “bad” isn’t great criticism. I think it’s better if you can be precise, like: “The pork chops were cooked perfectly and the breading was delicious as was the gravy, but the mashed potatoes were very garlicky and the oat milk you used added an unexpected note of vanilla. The steamed broccoli was a good idea but it was almost cold by the time the other items were ready. 3.5 stars out of 5.”

12. No, because her cooking is always great. I have heard it myself a couple of times though…

13. yes, because you have to eat it. if you both cook, constructive criticism is ok, don’t say its bad, suggest a way to cook it, such as, this could use more salt, or the chicken was in the oven a little too long, next time take it it out earlier etc

14. I guess it sucks if the cook isn’t very good

    How do the kids feel about the food, must kinda suck for them

15. Suggestion; hey would you want to try to make this dish together.

    Only ever tell her if you want to be cooking or getting fast food from then on

16. No. Hell no. She’s got taste buds to taste the food. I have hands that could’ve made the food. If I had a girl, she could feed me dog shit on a stick and I’d still eat it and tell her I appreciate her making dinner. If I really had a problem with the cooking, I’d take over that responsibility

17. No. Bc it’s unlikely all her cooking is bad. I mean I’ll still take a ham sammie. Hard to mess that up

18. I think you should but don’t be rude about it, maybe even do it subtly like tell her how she can make it better without saying it isn’t good so by that you’re not saying it’s bad you’re just saying how it can be better

19. Never ever say someones cooking is bad, make suggestions on how you like food cooked. If you dont know how you like things cooked, you are in no position to make any suggestions, so stfu and just eat whats given to you.

20. She once lit spaghetti on fire so I don’t really have to tell her, she is fully aware. The only cooking she ever does anymore is cookies and stuff out of a box and I always tell her they’re great no matter how they came out.

21. Yes, you do. Honesty is a good quality but **how** you communicate is also extremely important. You can tell her she needs help learning or lean together. You can appreciate her effort while giving her directions.

    And I do know a lot of men here might disagree. But if her ego is that fragile, she is not for me.

22. Wife is amazing at baking, she can’t cook for shit.

    I do 90% of the cooking, she does stuff like pizzas or out the jar curries, I thank her for the times she does cook,

    I’ve tried to teach her cooking, but she doesn’t believe in seasoning food, and cannot get her timings right to bring a meal together,

    We once had potato wedges 35 mins after the burgers were cooked.

    But we’re a team, we each bring our own strengths to the table and don’t mock what the other can’t do.

23. Sure. She loves to cook and bake. We watch a lot of cooking stuff. We try to cook new things together.

    Sometimes meals are just bad. They don’t cook the way the recipe seems to indicate. Sometimes the recipe doesn’t cook something the way you would cook it. Sometimes it needs way more salt or acid. We’ll break down what happened. It’s rare that we don’t agree.

24. Wife was a professional chef. I’m always trying to give her tips, mostly for healthier options. Somewhere in our house is a Mario Batali cookbook inscribed “to the duelling chefs”.

25. How else is she gonna learn?

26. Pathetic answer all over here, how will they get better if you don’t actually tell them how their food tastes like.

27. Nah. I just tell her what I like about it. And then suggest we cook together next time.

28. She doesn’t cook often so I’ll take anything if it’s edible.

29. I don’t, I say “thank you sweetheart, it’s delicious”, and I eat every bite. But she’s more than happy to tell me she doesn’t like something I made, enthusiastic really

30. What kind of man wouldn’t tell his girl that her cooking is bad? Are you that much of a whipped pussy?

31. No one improves without constructive criticism

32. I told my cousin that the casino’s mac’n’cheese was better than his mom’s. She a proud Pennsylvanian polish woman and while it IS good mac, it is saturated with butter, while the casino’s was baked, with like a half inch crust of cheese on top.

    He agreed with me and I thought we had a gentleman’s understanding that we’d keep those thoughts to ourselves.

    Cut to Easter Sunday. She brings in a big ol pot of mac’n’cheese. I’m get myself a big scoop and I hear an “ahem” from behind me. I turn around and she just standing there giving me a death glare. “That a mighty big scoop for someone who doesn’t like my mac and cheese.” And I’m like, “huh?” Your cousin told me you don’t like my mac and prefer the casino’s. I almost felt like Bruce from Matilda.

    I turn to look at him and he’s already darted for the basement. The house gets real quiet and all eyes are me. I did save myself though, barely.

    I told her that what I actually said was that the casino’s was good for every day eating, but that her mac was worth waiting for the three holiday’s we ate it. It worked somehow and the crisis was averted.

    Moral of story, even if the cooking ain’t great, keep that thought to yourself. You can always just be “not that hungry” now, and grab a burger later.

33. Depends on what you want.

    If she is generally bad with it, then why don’t you take this part and cook instead. She will get the hint without much drama.

    If she made a dish that was bad, because she tried something, but is generally good at cooking, she will notice it herself. (example my fiancee looks at me with a certain look when this happens and I answer it with ‘pizza?’.)
    -> no need for drama

    If she experiments with a dish and wants your opinion, that’s the time you can tell her “mh I think that wasn’t quite it. But thanks for the effort. Shall we get something together?”

    But in general, I don’t get why this is a topic. If she can’t cook and you can cook, then do it yourself. If she knows she is bad, and wants to learn, teach her. That’s also the only time where it may be necessary to tell her that her cooking isn’t good in a helpful way. If she doesn’t know she is bad, but you are too lazy or busy to cook yourself, appreciate her effort and do some lessons together. Makes also for a good date idea.

34. Yes, I tell her if the food is bad. Then she makes sure she does better the next time she cooks that dish. She’ll even ask me to taste it while she cooks to check if I like her new iteration. Obviously, this is all done respectfully, yet candidly.

    If your significant other does something poorly and you just accept it without telling them and offering any constructive criticism, you need to do better.

    If your significant other knows they do something poorly and continuously give it to you anyway without any improvement, they need to do better.

35. I would cook with her, so then I can say “I screwed up this part of dinner” if it doesn’t work 🤣

36. Both The Missus and I cook. We’ll talk about dishes but not in brutal terms — usually. We stick to specifics with a compliment to soften the blow. For instance, just last week I told her that the Mushrooms au Gratin was delicious but had too much salt, and she agreed. She generally is not a fan of the rub I use when smoking pork or beef, so now I don’t use anything other than salt, pepper, garlic powder and onion powder.

    So. What I’m really saying here is not to be too harsh in your judgements, but to be specific and show appreciation for your partner’s efforts.

37. I put hot sauce on everything!