My friend and I were supposed to hangout tonight and sleep at his house since he works all the time during tax season and he had a day off. When I went to his house we went out for food and went to Walmart.
After we got back he played video games for like two-three hours and ignored me the entire time. It seemed like he forgot I was even there. After like an hour I felt like turning off the tv so he would spend time with me.
After a couple hours I decided that I wanted to go lay in bed. An hour later he came into the bedroom and got in the bed. He tried spooning with me but I pulled away from him. He asked me what was wrong. I told him I’ll just go sleep on the couch or leave. He asked me again why I was acting this way but I ignored him.
I know I’m probably overreacting but I don’t understand why you would agree to hangout with someone and then ignore them the entire time. I want to go back in there but I feel like I should just leave. What do you think I should do?
I decided I’ll just sleep on his couch since it’s 2am and I don’t want to drive home. He texted me a couple minutes ago and asked me to come back into the bed with him.
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**tl;dr**: Friend wanted to hangout but ended up playing video games he entire time. Not sure how to respond to him.
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How is friend defined here? Are you strictly platonic? FWB? Partner? Need more context.
Did you say anything to him about playing games or voice that you wanted to do something? When he asked you what was wrong why didn’t you tell him you were bothered?
I can definitely understand him wanting some time to play games since you said yourself that he works a lot but I’m sure you weren’t expecting that!
Friend? I think that’s the main problem here. There is no commitment. Move on
This entire post’s stated events are weird but here’s what I think he was thinking. You were expecting more face to face interactions, to be entertained. He however, thought you were going to each do your own separate things in each other’s company. Side by side instead of face to face. Hang outs like that do happen, they aren’t that rare for some people and social groups but you’ve not really done that too much and were expecting something else. It is possible he wasn’t intending to be mean just socially dopey and a bad communicator. It’s up to you whether you find this attractive or acceptable.