So my partner had an affair….
The other person involved was in a fairly serious relationship so both parties of the affair were cheating.
The other person and thier partner are now engaged to be married and the partner dose not know.
I am torn in this situation. No one in my world knows of this either and we are working on staying together. We have 2 children and we hope to bring our relationship right and build from this.
But…. should I approach the other partner and let them know before they stand at the alter and commit to a relationship that has this very drak hidden past or should I let this go and hope that they can build a strong relationship with their partner and not let this ruin it before it has the opportunity to build.
Help!
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>But…. should I approach the other partner and let them know before they stand at the alter and commit to a relationship
Yes. The other person deserves all the facts before their relationship becomes legal.
Wouldnt you want to know?
The cheating will come out. It always comes out eventually. Telling them before they are married would be a kindness.
Morally I think you should. You’d be sparing the blissfully ignorant person, a very rude awakening later on.
Best of luck rebuilding your relationship OP… I don’t know if I could do it myself, and I admire your dedication.
Show the other betrayed person the same compassion and respect that you’d want to be shown. Tell them the truth.
What is done in the dark will come to the light.