Recently a lot of conversations I’ve been in have had me giving recommendations (places to visit, eat, sharing things people might not know about x or y). I feel like I’m overstepping a boundary here in my conversations and making others feel inferior.
I like being helpful but learnt recently that it could also be impacting my self esteem (if I’m not being helpful I’m being worthless etc.) How much being helpful is healthy?
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You can ask first if people want a recommendation/advice/help. Or share information from your personal experience, but without structuring it as help. Wait to see if they ask questions about it, if they want to know more.
You probably just jump in immediately with “oh, I can solve this for you!”. Yeah, people don’t like that. It either devalues their struggles or makes them feel stupid for not coming up with a solution themselves.