MEN: What do you usually talk about and how do you keep a conversation going with a girl to build emotional connection?

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1. words. I dunno man, if I’m into a person I don’t have to force anything or even be mindful of what I’m saying we just, talk. it comes naturally.

2. Mostly what she wants to talk about ofc, but, try and find other connections by dropping in / asking things closer to what I like to see if there’s any interest

3. just be natural and open but not too weird

   talk about similar interests then build off of that

4. Do stuff and then talk about the stuff you did

5. I spent an unreasonable amount of time talking about snorting coke off of dicks on the first date and we have hella cats now

6. You can Google questions to ask to build a connection. There are several lists of get to know you type questions that are not the typical questions.

7. Keep asking questions about her. Her goals and ambitions, whether she has hemorrhoids and do they hurt and what kind of cream does she prefer, what are her hobbies.

8. 1) Whatever I’m currently thinking about–like current trends or the Matrix or a meme or politics or something

   2) Whatever she brings up

   3) Questions I have for her with answers that I’m actually interested in

   Presuppose at the outset that you’re actually trying to figure out if she’s someone you want to talk to, and the whole keepig-the-conversation-going-so-you-can-get-laid thing will work itself out.

9. What matters most to you?

   Is it her ability to trust you? Or shared interests and hobies? Do you need to know you have similar goals in a relationship? Or are you just trying to flirt?

   Conversation serves many purposes and all of these things are important, but the most important thing is to be interested in her answers and try to add value when she responds. Don’t just wait for her to talk.

10. Once i realized no one had any interest in me socially i no longer had to try and work this out, i have to say not speaking to people is way easier.

11. If it’s hard it’s not workings, it should be easy.

12. Just ask questions. Most people love to talk about themselves.

    40 year old virgin is such a good movie

13. Questions, and follow up questions. Really be there for her, be serious.

    You: So what kind of music do you like?

    Her: Techno

    You: HAHA I WONT TECH-NO FOR AN ANSWER BABY KISS KISS

    You: GET IT, TECHNO?

    You: LIKE TAKE NO? LIKE TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER

    You: YOU STILL THERE?

    Ah shoot I’m not very good at this.

14. Open up and get deep. Vulnerability creates bonds. Just be genuine to keep a Convo going.

15. Tonight I showed her Sheep in the Big City videos on you tube. Then we talked about how awesome the power puff girls from the mid-2000s were and how animation shouldn’t be crap just because it’s geared toward children. We then griped about uncle grandpa.

    Edit:spelling error