On September 9, I met this guy who worked in same outlet as me. We automatically had a connection and I realized that I had a crush on him. Last Saturday, before I went to work, I decided to hit my shot and gave him a note that said “Hey, I don’t mean to be a creep (sorry if I am) but I think you’re kind of cute.”
Before I gave him the note, he said that he always wanted to visit my store that I work in because I always visit his. It wasn’t until around close to closing time that he actually visited (which actually shocked me because I thought he wasn’t going to come today). We talked a little bit, and he gave me back the note after I apologize to him for being a creep. I actually thought that he gave it bad because he didn’t want it, but it wasn’t until I saw the reply on the back after he left. The reply said “[My Name], you are cute too! I do have a gf but we can still hang out if you want.”
Under that note he gave me his number, so I am at a state where I am kind of heartbroken but kind of conflicted at the same time. After I showed it to my twin sister, I got the happy flutters again because I don’t know if this guy actually has feelings for me. I don’t know what to do and I feel stupid and cringy 😅☺️.
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Had a similar situation a few years back: gave a guy my number, he told me he had a girlfriend but texted me anyway, asking if I would like to hang out. Few days late he cancelled, saying he told his girlfriend and she wouldn’t like that (which is completely understandable). Got over this crush in like two weeks and was happy to be done with it.
I would say if he doesn’t tell his girlfriend he is not a sincere guy and you should stay away from him and if he does, it is most likely that she won’t like it and he will either cut contact with you or meet you in secret which is not a great start for a relationship either. If you want to get pulled into that and either ending heartbroken or actually winning him over and risking to end up with an unfaithful man, go for it. But I would advice you to stay out of it, especially if you have actual feelings for him (which won’t go away if you are just friends).
I get it that you are so far into that crush that you would do anything to win him over, been there as well, and sometimes it is hard to think rational. But I would say to walk away and be done with it before it gets more serious for you. There will be other crushes, and the probability of one of them liking you back AND being single are higher than this situation turning out positive for all parties included. Be proud of yourself that you had the courage to actually give him the note and don’t feel stupid. You shot your shot and didn’t really get rejected but actually got a compliment out of it. Just don’t take it as a reason to not try it again when the next crush comes around.