I understand the societal pressures which have conditioned people (including myself) into feeling as though love is the ultimate virtue. Specifically as a woman, there are a lot of standards pushed onto us on how exactly we should be performing while *in* love. I pride myself in being a “good lover,” whatever that actually means, but this is only because I tend to dedicate entire parts of myself to a partner. Being in college, I feel that if I am to intentionally give myself the time to be single, it should be now; I am much happier single, but find myself in long term relationships because love is so irresistible to me. When I am single, I feel much more fulfilled and satisfied with myself and progress I’m making towards my goals, but the moment that I fall in love, I throw all of this out the window.
I am in a relationship of about a year now and in light of recent events between us, it is even more apparent that being single would greatly benefit me, yet I still want to try and make it work.
Can you have a relationship and not be fully consumed by it? Sometimes I feel that my only purpose on this earth is to love others.
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You should do some reading/audio books on the subject to help understand it better, the psychology of men women love and relationships. We only really ever have ourselves, consider partners and the time spent together temporary. I think awareness of this fact and self discipline is required so you don’t lose yourself. And a partner that’s compatible and onboard with that.