So for context: Im a 24M and my gf is 22F. In my past i had a traumatic breakup (cheating etc.) before – which i thought i recovered from.
Now my new relationship: the Last 6 Months we had an amazing Time. I Never felt so loved before. We almost spent everyday together and always have a great time. Since last week she got sad all of a sudden. Now i feel a really strong fear she might leave me too – Even if there is no real reason to.
I cant really work. My Heart feels like it is going to ist explode. Similar feeling like in the phase of my last breakup.
So my question is (primarily for other M): how do you cope with the fear? Any Advice?
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Bro you can’t keep basing your wellbeing in the form of another person.
I’m sorry that happened. I would encourage you to maybe speak to a psychologist trained in schema therapy or CBT. These can help look at root causes for this fear of abandonment, how to replace or correct those fears, and work at challenging negative and counterproductive thoughts and patterns of thinking. You can also look this stuff up online too, however, the guidance of a trained professional is pretty essential in the early stages to help educate and guide you. Best of luck!
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