I’ve been seeing this girl I met at college for a few weeks, she actually took my v card and the sex has been great for me. Only thing is since she’s my first, I’m not exactly great at having sex. I’m definitely getting better, but I know I haven’t made her cum yet and I feel bad. I want to try to eating her out because I feel like that would give me a better chance at making her cum, but she told me not to eat her out unless she asks, which she hasn’t. What should I do ?
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Don’t do it unless she asks. Pretty simple right there. That is all about consent.
Ask her what she does like?
Ask if you can give her a Yoni massage instead
Respect her boundaries, and take your time enjoying everything else you do and building that connection 🙂 also don’t put too much pressure on her to cum or make this the main reason you want to go down on her, she will need to be able to relax for that to happen!
Girls face a tsunami of social pressure about so many different aspects of sex.
So it’s important to understand there could be many reasons why she doesn’t want you to go down with her.
She could just genuinely dislike it or perhaps feel it is somehow very intimate and not something she wants to do up front.
She could think that she has some issue that makes going down under some of the guys don’t want to do so she’s insecure.
Could be any number of reasons.
If I were in your shoes I would make sure that she knows she is pretty, and without putting pressure that you think she has a beautiful pussy.
No most guys don’t know how to use their mouths, make sure that you are kissing and nibbling on her back and thighs.
The back of the neck and the spot between the shoulder blades and the spine tend to be someone erogenous zones almost anywhere near the small of the back or the ass responds to kisses licks and bites depending on their level of sensitivity.
No there’s a variety of reasons people wouldn’t want to do this, but feet and toes respond well to oral stimulation. No keep in mind that is often something that freaks people out but that’s because of the social context of it not because of how it feels.
The advantage of biting her and when I say biting I’m talking about nibbling, upper thighs in her ass is rimming again not something everyone is into but perhaps that is quite literally in this case a back door.
In all of this the Paramount thing is to be aware of your partner’s body language are they loose and fluid and moving or they stiff and Frozen. Are they breathing hot and heavy or are they holding their breath.
Less is almost always more so take your time and don’t rush and remember the making your partner feel safe and heard is the sexiest thing you can do.
Answer to just the title: don’t eat her out. Nothing else really needs to be said