What’s the difference between sex in porn and real sex?

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1. Everything is different in real sex

2. Porn is entertainment, not reality. Very little crosses over to real life. Many positions are just got camera angles, and a lot of other things are purely for the viewer’s stimulation.

   One simple example: Why do guys in porn always pull out and cum on the girl somewhere?
   Because they have to “prove” that he enjoyed it. We all pretty much prefer coming inside of her, but that doesn’t look good on camera, its too easy to fake.

3. Porn is a visual medium, real sex is a full body experience. A lot of the things that drive women wild ( like foreplay ) are glossed over, there are pauses that don’t show up in porn when you change positions or slow down, what looks good doesn’t necessarily feel good and what looks unattractive on camera can feel amazing.

   One example, men in porn often stand away when they are doing PIV so that the camera can capture the full motion. During real sex a man’s abs and hips should suck into a woman’s so that they can rub and stimulate her more. On camera this looks like you’re just rubbing bellies, but to her it will feel a lot nicer than leaving her clit in the air while she gets rammed like the gate of Minas Tirith.

   Sex also happens for a wide range of durations, some people like it fast, others go for marathons and it can be different depending on mood and circumstances.

   Smells, smells are very important during sex, they don’t even show up in porn for obvious reasons.

   None of the facial expressions are really accurate in porn either, the actresses are often over the top and while they can be similar to real sex moans, a lot of women are less vocal than you would expect.

   There’s also everything that happens after sex, which never gets included in porn. Porn usually ends with cum somewhere, real sex can end before ejaculation and then restart, or one partner may finish and the other may not or there could be coitus interruptis and how you behave after sex is just as important as before and during.

   TLDR, porn is nothing like real sex.

4. Porn is the same as sex, in the same way that your typical Hollywood movie is the same as real life. In other words… not very.

5. The difference is you don’t have someone yelling, “move your ass to the left, you’re ruining the shot”.

6. The presence of a film crew is a major difference. Not to mention props you are unlikely to have in your basement – unless you are really lucky!

7. What’s the difference between collegiate wrestling and WWE? One is real and the other is entertainment. It can be pretty far from reality. There are probably more differences than similarities.

8. Actually communicating with your partner so you know their desires and their boundaries. Real, patient foreplay is often very important, not just careless finger banging and soulless oral. Dealing with physical mismatches and trying to find angles and variations that are actually pleasurable. Positions that are comfortable and not skewed so a camera can see the penetration. Positions that wear you or your partner out just by being in that position. Using lube. Using condoms. Taking breaks in long sessions. Occasional awkwardness and interruptions. Setting the ambience with lighting and music to keep partners present and not distracted. Starting softer than soft, slower than slow so you can escalate as needed but only as needed instead of jackhammering from the start. Not ignoring the clitoris. Getting sweaty. Weird sounds, weird expressions, weird physical reactions, weird vocalizations. Sex stains. Lying in the sex stains. Laying down stain towels. Passing the wiping off towel. Cinematic cumshots making a real fucking mess. Squirting making a real fucking mess; and for many people it’s not even an orgasm. Getting dehydrated. Being conscious of roommates, neighbors, or family members on the other side of thin walls. The sex smell. Actually doing aftercare, cuddling, talking, rehydrating, or awkwardly redressing afterwards. Cleaning up sex stains on sheets, carpet, chairs, curtains, or in the car. The walk of shame.

9. The difference between playing basketball in grade school and the NBA.

10. Sex can look different than porn. It doesn’t all have to be penetration. There are some people who prefer to NOT be penetrated. Some want to only focus on their fetishes. Whatever it looks like depends on the dynamic you have with your partner.