It’s been about 2 years since I was in a relationship. During that time I mostly kept to myself, I occasionally went on a date here and there but I don’t think I was ever completely into them since when I came to the realization there wouldn’t be 2nd dates I was completely okay with that.
I recently met someone whom I found myself to genuinely like. I didn’t ask them out on a date, more so I just asked if they’d ever like to hang out, I simply wanted to get to know them better. They never responded to my message, so I took that as a ‘no’. I fully accept their decision but I actually feel a bit sad. I feel a bit low about myself.
Now I’m just wondering how often people experience rejection before they find someone who returns their interest? If you felt yourself feeling low about being rejected, how did you get back out there?
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Too many times to count.
You’re not going to connect with most people you meet. No matter what context you meet them in.
The point of dating is to get to know people, when someone rejects you you learn something new about them. Namely that they’re not interested in you. I don’t know about anyone else, but to me that’s a huge turn off.
I don’t think that’s something you should keep track of. It can ruin your self esteem
Like 3?
But that number is misleading, and here’s why: like many people on this sub, I was very timid and socially anxious as a teenager. The reason I haven’t been rejected very many times is because *I didn’t make moves on anybody*. I was too scared.
I was rejected many many times in my youth before I became an adult. It’s definitely not uncommon to get rejected. People have so many different personalities and interests that it’s bound to happen, so don’t take it personally.
Over 50, factoring in women I’ve met irl and dates from online. It’s a grind but you just keep going until you find the right person
You just got to get used to it and understand that it has nothing to do with your value as a person. Strawberry flavour isn’t a bad ice-cream flavour just because somebody prefers chocolate; it’s just a preference. Somebody might not like you, but other people will.
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince. Someone on Reddit commented that and honestly? It’s quite true. Haven’t met my prince yet but I’ve had a pretty bad experience with guys so I’m still in the kissing frog stage
I ran about 10000 sets in field
Momma always told me don’t let nobody say they don’t want you more than once so 1 time 🤷🏾♂️
I’ve never asked someone out on a date and been rejected. Then again I’ve been very selective, partly due to anxiety. In total I’ve asked six girls out on a date. They all said yes. Three turned into relationships, two of them long term, one ongoing (marriage in mind).
I got rejected once by a girl after going on two dates with her. She came back around later when I had a girlfriend and tried to hook up with me again.
Somewhere in the thousands and still counting.
3 girls directly rejected me; that is, I had crushes (at different times) on these girls and they turned me down. A 4th friendzoned me. A handful of others noticed me beginning to take interest and responded by cooling off a bit towards me. That was high school for me. But then in my sophomore year of college, I met my wife.
I know this isn’t related to your question, but moreso the prompt leading up to the question: try sending that person you genuinely liked one more message. Sometimes life happens and we don’t get to a message ‘til much later, sometimes so much that it feels too late to reply. It sounds like you’re already prepared to move on, but if you think this is a person you really click with them don’t be afraid to pull out all the plays (within reason). This may be a Hail Mary move, but really what’s the harm. Worst case scenario, things stay the same and you move on like you were already going to.