During my semester abroad I (M24) have been dating this girl from another country (F21). We were dating for like 6 weeks before the semester ended and we went home to our countries. Already during this time we’ve decided to meet again so I visited her and we vacationed together for like 5 days. Afterwards it turned really bad very quickly. We had promised each other to meet again in autumn but right after our vacation she kept going to places, had trips, went partying a lot, while my life at home was super dull. We kept telling each other that we miss each other but soon it became clear that she was able to live her best life without me and didn’T prioritize communicating with me at all while I was telling myself the worst things about her and got incredibly jealous. To not start holding grudges and to protect my own mental health we decided not to be in touch any more. Since then I still cant stop thinking about her, every word she ever said to me, what she might be doing, what she thinks of me etc.. I’m sure she doesn’t think of me ever and has been able to move on, because she’s very much more than myself able to live her best life and doesn’t constantly worry about everything like I do.
So long story short: how do I forget somebody? How do I stop idolizing someone? I’ve been dating someone else for a month now and it’s going quite good, but still I can’t stop thinking of her. (I’m not looking at her social media or our old text messages any more, so why?)
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Been through this myself almost to the T. It sucks ass but it really takes time. Seems like it takes more time than a regular breakup. You said you’re not looking at old conversations or her social media? Are you holding onto any of y’all’s things? Photos, memories, belongings, etc?
you havnt healed yet. one day you will wake up and the feeling is gone.