So I’m the type that loves sex. Like who doesn’t? (f29) and here recently I’ve been having guys hit on me and it always results into them getting to know me a lil and we get into the sex conversation, they find out I’m a freak, we have some sex conversations and when I bring up the fact I have a fantasy of being r*aped (more of a controlling role) being submissive to someone, always freaks them out? Is it uncommon? Should I not mention my fantasy? I want that sex where someone wants and craves me so bad, they take me, no matter what the circumstances are. Either if I say yes or no cause they want me that bad…
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They just aren’t familiar with kink. They don’t know about safewords or aftercare or what soft limits are or anything. You chatting up vanilla, kink wannabes.
Furthermore, what you want is SUPER hot and awesome. Forget those squares.
The many #metoo false charges that ruined people’s lives for no reason probably had a lot to do with men not feeling comfortable with it but as long as it’s consensual most kinky people should be ok with it
I think given that you could turn around and cry rape, it’s a bit of a scary idea for some, understandably. This find of fantasy probably needs a bit more time and trust than a very new relationship or one night stand/casual sex situation
Sounds like you’re wanting to explore Consensual Non-Consent or CNC. That’s not something that would label someone a “freak” but it does require both partners to have a clear understanding of consent, safe words, etc. In all my time with BDSM play (which I would consider CNC), I would struggle engaging in CNC with someone I didn’t have a relationship with since BDSM and CNC requires a transference of trust. That can’t happen early in a relationship or no relationship. That’s probably why people aren’t willing to take you up on your offer.
I would consider, once you find someone who is interested in having a relationship (could be FWB), you use a Yes, No, Maybe list to explore / discuss each other’s kinks including CNC play.
You could try a hookup app and put in your bio that you’re into CNC and BDSM. Then people who are interested will respond to you, and people who aren’t will left swipe. Just a thought.
Maybe that part of the conversation is happening to soon? Stick with the submissive parts/wanting to be dominated. When you are in a relationship longer and have built trust maybe get more detailed?
Haven’t met the right guy. Some of us love that. The control is part of the thrill as the submission is for you! Good girl. Maybe I can take you out for some coffee sometime? 🙂