I’ve been seeing my current boyfriend for about two months and we’ve just started having sex last week. Neither of us are virgins but he was really nervous the first time so I really didn’t have a fun experience. After he apologized for being so weird during it and said the next time he’d be more comfortable. He also said he’s really good at giving head so be prepared because he was going to go down on me the next time. Flash forward to the next time(and all the times after), turns out he’s not very good at performing oral sex. Like pretty bad, kind of hurts and it’s like he’s attacking me haha. He’s really sensitive so telling him this will shatter his confidence. Idk what to do because I’ve never had trouble cumming from oral but don’t even get close with him.
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Well if you really like him you can have to tell the truth even if it has to break his Pride. some women are just different they’re not all the same.
I see three major possibilities:
A. You can be honest with him now while it’s still new with “While other women may have enjoyed this I don’t, let’s try something different and let me tell you what I enjoy during”
B. You can not tell him over time until it becomes too much and he feels hurt because you’ve been lying to him about what you enjoy and he can’t truly know whether or not he’s pleasing you or you’re faking it going forward. It becomes a bigger thing than it ever needed to be
C. Let him think he’s good to spare his feelings all the while building resentment till you either leave him or it explodes in an argument where you hurtfully tell him in one way or another “you suck at giving head btw”
Yeah you need to teach him. Maybe try watching a porn and tell him what you like out of it.
I’ll tell the person I’m with if it hurts or if I want more of something else during their performance but if he’s sensitive it could backfire but better to know than not
What he is doing for oral for you may have been perfect for his previous girlfriend. So you need to talk with him and explain this. What ladies need can be quite different. And then tell him what you need. It is not his fault he doesn’t know what you need. He’s assuming (I believe) that what worked for his previous girlfriend will work for you. It’s a somewhat reasonable assumption, but not a good assumption.
i would suggest telling him what you like
It really is just so simple. Let him know. You don’t have to come out and say he sucks but while he is going down you can say things like ‘go gentler’ , ‘try faster’, ‘you nose is buried too hard, ease up a little’ then it will change to ‘god yes, keep doing that!’
“Here’s how I work, and what I like…allow me to demonstrate.”
Grab his head and tell him to take you slowly and gentle