I (24f) went on a few dates with someone (23f) and while it seems that we would be great on paper, and have this great chemistry, it seems like we keep having the wrong timing.
A fun fact that she actually brought up on our first date is that we had matched on Tinder a year ago to the date. We had a very similar conversation to the one that we had on Bumble this year, and I had given her my phone number at the end of our conversation. However we both ended up getting caught up in our respective situations, and ultimately never got to me. She even kind of kicked herself for a year because she kept thinking of me, of “what if I had just texted her, would I have been happy?”
I’m happy to report that we did end up meeting, as insinuated, after matching again on bumble. We ended up meeting for coffee at night, took a stroll around the town park, and we ended up sharing three conversation that ended in a great kiss overlooking the city skyline. We share a lot of the same interests, especially in books and music, and after the horrible situation that ended at the beginning of summer, it truly felt like this with somebody who wanted to respect my time and really wanted to get to know me. I really rude to kind of care about her, but I didn’t want to rush into anything. I just started law school, and she is a master’s STEM student at a university. We ended up going on two more days one while she was moving out of her apartment to get coffee and smoothie bowls, and the last one having a picnic on the river. We both were moving apartments the same week, so it was difficult to pinpoint when we could meet.
We ended up deciding that we can’t continue to see each other right now, we both have too much on our plate. Its not either of us were seeing other people – we both thought this was heading towards a relationship. As stated I just started law school, and she actually started school a week and a half after me, which turned out to be pretty tumultuous. Not only has she had to work out her classes, which are still not fully worked out, she also has a pretty demanding job in a lab and she runs a couple of different organizations at her school. I totally understand that she needs time for her friends, for school, and to ultimately make the most of her last year in school before taking some time off. I too had similar worries about the two of us getting really codependent, and that has been something that I’ve really been working on. I really don’t want to mess that one up.
Ultimately we decided that we were in each others areas, we’ll try to meet up for coffee. We actually almost Sige other last week, but ultimately a serious situation came up that she had to take care of. She is extremely genuine and caring, and it doesn’t feel like she wants to see other people it’s just that we’re too busy right now to make anything real work. I’m hopeful that maybe next semester, we might have better timing. In the meantime I want to take some time to work on myself. I recently had an ex pop back up for a hot second, and it really rocked me. I realized that if I wasn’t over that situation, it wouldn’t of been fair to put this new person through the range of emotions that I had. So I want to be able to take the time to truly heal and maybe, we might be able to come back to each other at a time where we’re both able to make things work.
Does right timing ever work?
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I personally don’t believe in “right person, wrong time.” If the person is right, the timing will be right.
My thoughts: You’re not what she needs at *this* time, and vice versa. If you get together in the future and it works out, it’s because the two of you have changed to become the right fit at *that* time.