Is dating possible if I lack confidence and overthink a lot?

5 comments

1. It’s not going to be easy unfortunately, but not impossible.

2. The secrets to confidence are 1) Fake it until you make it and 2) practice. Being in the spectrum certainly makes it harder, but I think the formula is the same. Keep trying until it gets easier. I’d encourage you to be open about your condition and even make light of it if possible. Have some good canned lines prepared. If you notice that she’s offended by something you say, you can respond, “I didn’t mean to offend. I’m a little bit on the spectrum, so sometimes I say things that are inappropriate without realizing it. Feel free to let me know if that happens.”

3. Most women at that age can detect a lack of confidence from a mile away. You are going to need to get ontop of your confidence issues before you have any real success.

4. As someone who also greatly struggles with confidence issues, and *constantly* overthinks, yes. It is possible. It can difficult and sometimes even demoralizing, but it can absolutely be done.

5. You definitely don’t want to date if you lack confidence. How are other people supposed to believe you’re great if you don’t think that yourself!!

   Take time to make sure you’re ready to put yourself out there and maybe try therapy. Your chances aren’t decreasing, you just need to be mentally ready to date first.