I wander the mall hoping to lock eyes with a man that’ll approach me, but it never happens. I’m attractive but I feel like they can’t see me, as if a dark cloud is covering me up. I feel like I forgot how to smile. Should I approach them instead?

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1. Don’t look for anyone. They’ll come to you. Just work on yourself and your mentality. Be someone that someone wants to be with. Your ex is toxic and thankfully an ex for a reason.

2. You could approach, I think that’s a personal decision based on how interested you are in that person.

   As far as men not approaching you, I don’t think it matters how attractive you are. It’s a faux pas for men to approach random women especially in non social situations like a mall.

   Even in social situation like a bar or club I see people react badly when approached randomly – so don’t let it get to you if that doesn’t happen.

   Edit: on a closer look at your post it seems like your issue is a really emotionally abusive ex boyfriend. I’m not a therapist but maybe they could help you with some feelings you have(?)

3. If you want someone, go get ’em (aka approach). Respectable dudes oft err on the side of caution and won’t really approach unless the setting is right (Definitely not a mall). Walking around hoping to get a dude to approach you ain’t worth it.

4. I’d say u should approach them. Fuck it! If you are hot they could be intimidated.

5. YES. Why not approach them. It 2022, not 1922

6. How’s your weight? I get approached all the time and I hate it. I was Told When I hit a certain age it would stop but it’s only gotten worse because now a larger age range of men are bothering me

   I am slim and fit