What is essential for a happy sex life?

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1. Good communication.

2. Understanding that foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom

3. Having an open discussion about sex (kinks, what’s working, not working, fantasies), be genuine (don’t fake it), explore your body (masturbating), foreplay, have sex on a regular basis, experiment, address concerns (painful, ED, menopause)

4. Magnetic force

5. Variety

6. Compatibility and communication

7. Trust

8. Can’t believe nobody has said consent yet, so I guess it falls to me.

   Consent should be first and foremost.

9. Enthusiasm and honesty.

10. A strong physical ‘spark’ or connection, communication, and the desire to please.

11. That it’s not just sex. That it’s real love making.

12. Orgasms

13. I am surprised no one has mentioned – making each other feel desired. While communication and all those things are super essential in the bedroom, I feel that for me at a basic level I want to be shown that I am desirable; through eye contact, through flirty texts, through the cliched “you make me go crazy” type stuff.

14. an open mind. patience. confidence.

15. Compatible sex drives. And in the absence of that, a willingness to compromise. One person may get less sex than they’d prefer and one may have to have more.

16. Sex

17. Communication