How is it that I’ve gotten worse at this? Aren’t we supposed to be better at things with time? I’m 30 y/o and I remember being much better at talking to girls in my teens up to my mid 20’s. I used hookup somewhat regularly and have only had one real relationship of 4.5 years that I consider to be one of the nicer parts of my life. It used to feel easy and natural flirting but now it’s not and it feels harder to date. When I do hit it off with girls it always turns out they’re in a relationship/married or unavailable. I’ve never cheated either so I like to believe I’m not karmically fucked. I went from having sex everyday to now rarely. I feel deprived, how does one thrive in these conditions? Is dating in your 30’s supposed to be this bad? This is a rant, srry
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I can relate, in my case I don’t look as good as I did 10 years ago, I’m not as happy, and not as social either.
However, it’s not *just* us, there are far fewer happy and available people at our age – since they’ve been partnering up and leaving the pool this whole time, hence why a lot of the people you hit it off with are in a relationship, married or unavailable.
You can’t thrive in the same way as before under these conditions, it’s different conditions and you need to have different expectations.