I’ve had a girlfriend for around 6 months. The other day she mentioned that one of her exes was a gang member. I’ve never been the type to care about exes, but this really threw me off. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
I’m the polar opposite of a gang member, just a young white guy in my early twenties. All I was thinking about was why she’d put herself in a dangerous position like that and think it was okay, but I didn’t say anything cause it happened in the past. I won’t lie, I was shocked when I heard it and didn’t know what to say for a full minute. Is this a red flag?
I’d like to hear your thoughts, still learning about relationships.
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You’re just finding this out at 6 months?
Does she keep in contact or have his contact info? If so I’d say yeah, no offense to them but that’d be a big one for me.
If you are in your early twenties I guess she is around that age too. If that was a previous relationship it means she was even younger when it happened.
Remember that people can make mistakes when they catch feelings, especially when they are young. Sometimes your brain tells you that something is not right, but the glasses of love make everything pink. If now she is not proud of that relationship, then I don’t see what the problem is. Because, if that’s the case, she thinks it was not good to be in that relationship, exactly like you do.
Red flag. It shows her moral character