Tonight is my first time eating at a sit down restaurant by myself. I usually go with family or friends but I really wanted to push myself to go alone. I feel so proud that I didn’t stutter when the waitress took my order. ☺️Friends, if you’re horribly anxious and introverted like me, try going out. You’ll feel so good afterwards and get a good meal!
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I started doing this a while back. I had a job inspecting buildings so I never knew where I was going to be come lunch time. Eventually I got tired of getting fast food and eating in my truck so I started going to restaurants alone.
At first you do feel a bit insecure like people are watching/judging you but then you realize it’s not bad at all. It’s actually nice eating alone rather than with a date because that means I actually only have to pay for 1 meal instead of 2.
Glad to hear you had such a good experience—what type of restaurant did you go to? I was lucky enough to work in a major city right out of college and quickly got comfortable eating out solo when I realized that nobody really pays you any mind. Everyone is focused on their own life.
There’s a nice place in NYC that offers you a complimentary glass of champagne if you’re dining alone and I thought that was kind of endearing.
I’m completely opposite to you lol. I eat alone most of the time. I wish I can eat out with my friends more often, but I just enjoy being alone too much.
Hope you had a nice time!!
Please keep doing this! This will give you the type of independence that allows you to really branch out and grow. Also, don’t feel any type of insecurity about what others may think; I promise that nobody who matters would actually care. I’ve moved to a couple of different cities now in the last few years, and this type of what some would consider to be “loneliness” is something that happens regularly. However, my experiences moving around and meeting new people are overall great. You just have to be able to accept that at the end of the day, it’s just you.
I did the complete opposite tonight. It would’ve been easier for me to dine in. But I chose takeout and drove 20 minutes. 🥲
Eating alone in a reataurant is a power only few can master. I have been doing it for over a year now. Don’t care about what others think. Most of the times, they don’t even care.
If u like eating out then do it. I prefer togo so i can skip tipping.
Congrats!
That’s a big step and you should be proud that you took it.
How to start: Go to mom-and-pop restos/ cafes/ pubs that have bar seating and request to be seated there. That way you’re in the “designated” area for individuals eating solo. Bonus if the cafe/ resto/ pub isn’t busy, you have high chances of the owner/ bartender/ server chatting with you
This is how I started before I finally got the courage to sit down on an actual 2-seater table by myself 🙂
(I travel a lot for work, it helps that people in small towns don’t know me and may never see me again)
Man.. how many times I circle back and forth past a place I want to go to, drooling over the pic of the nice carbonara they have, only to go to McDonald’s because I didn’t have the damn balls to go in…so frustrating..
I love being alone, and eating out alone has come with that. You can read books while you wait and really appreciate the meal when it comes! The more you do it, the less strange it feels. You are not alone, alone!
Congrats.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. Eating alone. I find it a form of therapy. Time for me.
Also, well done working on your stuttering.
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Ikr 🙂
There’s no issue with that. Also, if you want somebody to talk with, try grabbing a seat by the bar and chatting up the bartender if it’s not too busy. Heck, most of the time, they’ll start chatting you up. Bartenders usually have great conversation skills so you might be able to note down some tricks as a bonus.
Well sometimes you need time for yourself rather then others