I’m engaged and regularly find 3-4 new ones downloaded on his computer every week. I hate it and it makes me hate him.

I know about his regular porn use but the pics of celebrities and Instagram chicks bugs me to no end.

Is this a regular thing?

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  2. Hate is a strong word. I definitely suggest talking to him about how those photos make you feel.
    And asking how he would feel if you did the same. Would he not be uncomfortable with that thought?
    Communication is key. And saying what you aren’t happy with is important. It’s equally as important as him listening and taking those things seriously. If your guys relationship is important to one another and are planning on marriage these conversations and give and take situations are key!

  3. This is fine, it’s your own insecurities that make it a problem. Talk to your partner about it but don’t try and blame or shame them for it (unless they are a hypocrite about it), but honestly what is wrong with looking at another human being a picture or drawing? They are in a relationship with you, out of over 6 billion people they chose you. Looking isn’t cheating or being unfaithful, as long as it doesn’t go past fantasy (without permission/ mutual agreement).

  4. Was in a similar position recently with my bf, we’ve lived together for almost a year, he told me he didn’t agree with watching porn or anything like that and eventually came clean about watching Reddit porn, only fans (once), etc.

    I know that you’re probably here to just see what other people think about that situation, so I’ll just say, it stung to know that he was getting hard and cumming to other peoples bodies, but the lying to me is what really made the situation a huge problem. We’ve talked through everything since and we’ve both agreed that in our relationship looking is harmless but sexualizing others (jacking off to them) stings the other a bit so we don’t do that anymore. I’m still trying to get over the feeling of not being enough for him but talking to him genuinely helps and makes me feel better, and I think that speaks more to our relationship than what he used to get a quick release of dopamine from. Working through it with my partner is what has helped. I really hope that helps.

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