Healed angry men of reddit, what helped you stop raging and getting angry all the time over everything?

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1. I’m not sure if anything really “helped” me stop getting angry all the time, but I think what has helped me the most is just learning to accept that some things are out of my control and that there’s no point in getting upset over them. I’ve also found that it’s helpful to try and see things from other people’s perspectives – even if I don’t agree with them, understanding where they’re coming from can help diffuse a situation.

2. Anger is a choice. Sometimes it’s a hard choice, but it’s still a choice.

3. Anger is manifestation of sadness. Once you realize that you find out what to work on to get rid of anger issues.

4. Being in the back of the cop car usually does the trick.

5. It’s because your thinking is majority negative so your actions are negative. To change you need to look over good things rather than bad once, stop looking at war news or crimes and look at cats and people’s helping other.

   It’s just an habit to train but it’s not difficult.

6. I realized I can’t control everything. The only things that actually piss me off is disrespect. Like my wife not hearing me out or listening to my calm responses to her freak outs. Or a random old man telling me to pick up my dogs shit after he took a piss. Yeah he really asked me if I was going to pick it up after my shi tzu pissed on a bush.

7. Know your core values, take action to center your life around them, sort your priorities.

   If you have a clear understanding what is actually essential for the things in your life, the anger should subside. Unless of course you are a control freak/old child who can’t stand having anything going against your will

8. Marijuana.

9. Yogurt.

10. Age honestly. I’m still healing, and flawed but I’m not padded cell cuckoo so atm it’s just two steps forward, one step back.

11. Let go of trying to control

12. I grew up, behavior like that is for toddlers. How emotionally weak are you to where pathetically small stuff sets you off? Honestly you should get some help.

13. I found a way to canalize my anger. It is GYM.

14. I got older and the energy for the rage isn’t there anymore.

15. 2 simple questions have made a huge difference for me as somebody who used to be frequently and easily angered:

    1) will being angry about this help the situation?

    2) is this a good use of my energy?

    Invariably, the answer to both will be “no”. The act of having to consciously think about it and confront that reality has been very helpful.

16. Everyone gets mad occasionally but if they are always touchy, angry, complaining, raging they will never stop because its part of their personality.