My people pleasing is ruining me

I need help please.

I have a bf (18m) of 2ish weeks. We started dating while I was in my home town but I had to suddenly move due to some family things.

He’s an amazing guy. But I just don’t think we work at a distance. He says he trusts me, but every night while we call he beings up the same shit.

“No other boyfriends down there right”

“Those condoms better not ge used”

Like if you trust me, why bring this up every. Single. Night.

And I lost a job offer where I moved. It was handled very unprofessionally on their part. I was sad because I needed this job for January. And my bf was empathetic, but would also say “so your gonna move back?” “I’m glad it fell through so you can move back!”

We also don’t agree with each other’s political views. Which is minor to me.

I’ve not had a break from relationships in the last year due to my anxiety of hurting other peoples feelings. Like in 2022 I’ve been single for 2 1/2 months total. I need a mf break but I just can’t say no.

I was alsi in a horrible relationship for 9 months and I ended things in April and made us go NC in May. He then started to harass me. I’m now traumatized from it.

And my bf asked if I still had feelings for him when I said I was going to go get help to get over this trauma. Huh??

I just turned 19 today (Oct 10th). My bf texted me saying he’s glad I’m having fun, but not to have TOO much fun. Implying a hook up.

I was out with my sister who I married and has a child. And that was my last straw. I need to end things, because I’m never going back to my home town and the comments he makes are just unnecessary imo. But I have this voice telling me I can’t bc it’ll hurt him.

Please any advice will be greatly appreciated!