I’ve just turn eighteen and realized that I have zero experience with dating/flirting. My school was a boys-only so I didn’t even had any contact at all with the opposite sex for the last seven years of my life.
Now in college, I feel really behind everybody. I don’t know if it’s more related to the fact that most people are older (around 20y) or that I’m very introvert., but I am constantly questioning myself if I am doing something wrong. People are just so natural about this talks about going to parties and flirting and shit that I don’t know if it is just a pose or a meme or just a serious conversation
It feels like people are laughing at a joke that I just don’t get it, and I don’t want to be that dumb guy who just stares and fake laugh while everybody is in the same tone
The reason I am talking in this reddit is because a friend of mine in college was joking about always carrying a condom with himself. I was shocked. Is that normal? I’m so confuse with what’s normal or not.
Should I pursue something here to catch up? A relationship? Or just keep existing until I adequate? The last option scares me, I’ve seen a lot of redditors here talking about being 35y and not being able to speak to a single woman.
Sorry if i didn’t make any sense. I am confused
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You put pressure on yourself really to early. Don’t follow social media.
A lot of people just start dating even in late 20s.
Here I am, 26M, zero experience, never been in relationship (and highly introvert) xD
I just learned myself that everyone has it’s own time in life.
Yes, a lot of people are very natural in talking and making friends, even having buch of partners, sex partners etc.
But when I look at my colleagues from school times… half of girls got married at age 19-21, already went through divorce, some are single mothers, some are happy in new marriage, some are still single, some were in relationship for year and and suddenly realised, that they are not going to marry this man and have break ups at age 25 after 6 years of being together…
So again: everybody have own time in their lives when it comes.
Hell yeah, of course, it would be amazing to have someone to cuddle someone, have a talk, hug, smile, just knowing there is second heart out there in world that thinks cordially, affably about you.
The only good thing to learn and increase chances is to open for people, to have talks. As introvert…still we need to learn to be a little extrovert, to open our mouths.