So recently I’ve been having this fling with a girl I like. We’re both not looking for a relationship at this point in time, so for now it’s just a friend’s with benefits situation.
The sex is great, I feel a connection with her and it’s actually so nice to just share that intimacy with someone. But after everything is done and I’m by myself, I find myself just feeling a bit empty.
There was a point last night when she asked me “if you found a hickey on me, from another guy, how would you feel?”
I said I’d be hurt, and probably distance myself from her.
Then I asked her the same question, and she said she wouldn’t really feel anything like disappointment or jealousy.
Although I’m not open to an actual relationship at the moment, hearing her say that did affect how I felt. And I’ve been in a bit of a weird place mentally since. Wondering if I should back off from her.
For me this kind of thing isn’t only physical, it’s emotional too. So if it’s not the same for her, then I don’t know if I can continue with it knowing she might not see this as something special like I do.
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Be upfront man. If this is actually causing you emotional problems then why keep proceeding with it? It’s better to lay all in the table before either of u get too hurt or you end up in a worse mental state man. Take care of yourself.
Guys get attached pretty easily, probably a result of women choosing their mate. So a lot of guys get feelings in an intimate relationship a lot of the time.
During sex both gender release phairmones that are designed to “deepen the bond to their mate”. Some people are more susceptible to these. It could also mean she’s not receptive to yours or that she’s drivin by the collection of many.
>Then I asked her the same question, and she said she wouldn’t really feel anything like disappointment or jealousy.
You like this girl and she sees you as a human vibrator. Find someone who cares about you.