This is the 3rd time sleeping with each other and I can’t physically get to sleep. My mind just latches onto everything like her breathing or why I’m not sleeping. Any advice? We are at mine this time (first 2 sleepovers were at hers) and I’m currently sat in a chair next to my bed, tired but can’t sleep.
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Why are you hung up? Are you comfortable with her/around her?
Take a deep breath, maybe do some mindful meditation or take a walk if you think it might help. I think you might be nervous about sleeping next to another person, but that can be addressed with a little time.
Focus on your breathing, not hers. Get into a really comfortable position and relax. Feel your body relaxing, each muscle letting go of stress from the crown of your head to the tips of your fingers and toes. You’re going to have thoughts, just let them run their course and release them. Maintain a steady breathing pattern, imagine your every cell getting lighter as they fill with each breath. Relax, and don’t worry.
Also, a fan might help. Good luck!!
Have you tried wireless earbuds? Maybe listening to something might help, when I can’t sleep I listen to podcasts until I doze off
It can be difficult to sleep next to someone else if it’s early on in the relationship, but don’t worry, it’ll probably get better. With time, you might even sleep better when your partner is present (that was the case for me and boyfriend). Maybe in the meantime you can have white noise to help you fall asleep?
I used to be this way with my gf. It takes a while but eventually you can’t sleep without hwr