Am I the asshole for asking my ex to get back together after 3 months of no contact and sleeping with other girls?

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1. does she care?

2. I texted her this morning about wanting to talk before I leave her town to go back to my college town. I don’t how she will react.

3. if you broke up with her then yes.

4. She broke up with me

5. Have you had any communication with your ex? does she want to get back together? If not, I wouldn’t ask straight away.

   However, it shouldn’t be a problem. You weren’t together and she doesn’t get to dictate what you do and who you spend time with when you aren’t together (and vice versa).

6. Consider that maybe she didn’t see anyone during your break and feels cheapened.. it doesn’t make you an asshole for asking, but her perspective may be quite different.

7. You’re not an asshole for merely asking her..?

8. If she broke up with you, it’s not her business of who you slept with, and doesn’t make you an asshole for trying to move on. Definitely get checked either way, but especially if you do get back together. Best of luck to you!!

   Everything I just said goes out the window if she had really good reasons for breaking up with you in the first place 🙂 hahaha

9. NTA. I hope it all works out!

10. Dude, the two of you were not together. As far as both of y’all are concerned, both of y’all could fuck the world population and it shouldn’t mean anything.

    You good bro, ask her out! If she says no, no hard feelings.

11. If you broke up for three months and wanted to get back together with her, why sleep with anyone within the three months and instead of sleeping with two other women, why didn’t you attempt to figure what went wrong in the first place and improve yourself so you could get back with her if it was you that caused the problem and not her? It sounds like you only want to get back with her because you only see her as an object, a trophy, ect. Imo, yes, you are an asshole

12. I’d not stir the pot if you have no interest in a future with this person. (Personally speaking)it takes a long time to detach from a relationship and can be devastating once no contact is broken.

13. You were not together during that time, so what does it matter if either of you was seeing with others?

    So, no, you prolly aren’t an asshole..tho you may be a bit foolish for trying to get back together cuz breakups happen for a reason..ya know..it’s more often a mistake to go back to it.