I have started hooking up with dudes but the ones I’ve had sex with always are very careful and apologise for everything think that they are making me uncomfortable. I love being manhandled tho and just being treated roughly, how can I tell the person I’m having sex with that they can be more dominant with me in a non awkward way?
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I always discuss kinks like this before sleeping with anyone to make sure we’re compatible. When I want him to be rough I either tell him over text the day we’re supposed to meet or I’ll tell him in person during foreplay. I like the latter because I can act coy while asking and he loves that
Tell them. You have two options:
* In a non-sexual setting. This is MUCH better because there’s no heat of the moment confusion, and you can talk about limits or boundaries and discuss a safeword.
* During. MUCH harder, because now you have to try to be clear AND also be a little sexy about it lol. But talking dirty is a great way to get your wants across: “fuck my mouth” is typically not something a girl who wants gentle and caring says, for instance lol
I am a gentleman and I always am gentle. I had someone tell me to be rough and she wants to be controlled and she reached over and pulled my head her cooch and pushed HARD…I took the cue and pushed her down, penetrated as I held her hands together and started pumping away hardcore…She went nuts…I wanted to apologize so bad but didn’t.
Don’t ever hit a woman but if she wants a little roughness then go for it
Just tell them what you want that’s what I do. It’s not that hard just be honest with your partner.
Open and honest communication is always key, and if it’s really important to you don’t be afraid to bring it up before the first time you hook up with someone. Just be sure to also establish what your boundaries are and hold to them firmly so that nothing gets taken farther than you’re actually comfortable with
What’s the deal, you can fuck them but you can’t talk to them?