So I(M20) had actually seen that my gf(F21)had someone msging her on WhatsApp and I noticed she would clear the motifs kinda fast and that got me a little suspicious not only that but a lot of TikTok’s I had been getting in my fyp we’re about cheating so I had all these thoughts formulating. This lead me to going over her house one day because we were gonna gut the gym and while she got ready in bathroom she left her phone behind so I tried to see the app and find the name, and there I scrolled up and eventually saw a bunch of nudes in the chat, gallery style like 4 in one blob this felt like a fucking punch in the gut and made my stomach sink. Afterwards I confronted her about my suspicions and asked her if I could see her chats which she got frantic and started to obviously delete stuff while I was driving then I told her that why she was lying and that I already saw the pictures and said to explain herself. Then she admitted that she had an OF like some kind of joint account or idk he was managing it or something with one of her friends from equador(her hometown, we are in the states)and that basically she just did it for easy money. And she did say that she had it before dating me and that she stopped it around July(so like 5 months into dating me)and I would ask her if they had gone out or if he was her ex or anything or her stalker which she did tell me about how she had one years ago. But then she said she was sorry and didn’t want to lose me and she just didn’t know how I was going to react.In the end we ended up making up at the moment and she promised no more secrets and that she really fucked up and she didn’t want me to have my doubts and that she wouldn’t ever do it again. But the thing is that I’m more concerned about the guy and how this all came to start and if he probably manipulated her and if that’s the case I’d want her to block him or consider it a breakup and this has been picking at me all afternoon. I even went to see her again today and we were good and she told me she loved me and didn’t want me to have any doubts about that.And she’s at work from 5-10 and I’m wondering if I should try to get her to answer my burning questions through text or just wait the next 3 hours while I go to the gym.
Update: Alright so we did talk and I just asked her who the guy was and everything turns out they’d been friends for 10 years online tho never met up in person tho, and since they were friends for that long she just felt comfortable. But once I told her that if she would stop communication and block him she said that she cared more about me and us being together and that it is fair for me to ask that, this then lead to us talking more about normal stuff and eventually got to sexy talk and leading to us hooking up tomorrow…I mean personally I do feel better knowing the guy getting blocked and everything but I’ll see how it goes for now any mishaps in the future and I’ll def take action and leave but for the time being rn I think I’m satisfied with the answers.
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Dude idk how I just found your post but sounds like a situation I was in a few months back and I ended up having to leave the girl after being cheated on 3 times…. Finding out she was meeting people and filming with her ex
Enjoy the thought that you don’t have to subscribe or pay for her content. Also you don’t have to text her in the hope of her doing stuff for you.
Seriously buddy, celebrate you have a relationship as it is and enjoy the experience. Respect her wishes and choices.
Best of luck.
Updateme!
I would leave I don’t accept disrespect n I have boundaries u know what it is. If it rattle like a snake and slither like a snake is it a snake or do u need to be bit?
Bro if it’s making you uncomfortable break up and move on.
So I think you are probably scratching the surface of what is going on with her
Strong chance the more you dig the more unpleasant stuff you are going to find
So wait, how old were these chats of her naked photos?
Updateme!
I think you are focussing on the wrong person. She is an active participant. she is not a victim. The guy is just a pimp and is helping her make money. and she is still doing it by the way.
if anyone, you are her victim. I would not trust a word she says, she lied to you from the start, she was actively deceiving you, by deleting messages.
ask yourself honestly if this is a partner that you would trust with anything?
I think you know the answer. do yourself a favor and ask her to leave.
Can’t trust anything she said if she deleted stuff. What didn’t she want you to see? Was she still sending nudes to other people?
Wow man. All it took was an empty promise and pity sex to rope you back in?
Yeah, I reckon shes just going to hide it a little better from now on.
My dude, have you heard of paragraphs?