I met this girl three months ago and since then we speak every day over phone for hours long. And we have met for many times (say more than 15 times). We hug and told hands when we are together. And many times I mentioned how much I like her and took care of her in every possible way. She never said much about how she feel. She said. “Lets talk about it next year”.
Btw, I’m an Investment banker at the peak of my career, never married, and I look good (at least thats what I believe). She looks beautiful and divorced.
Recently we were, in car, going to a coffee place and she called a male friend of her over phone (she never mentioned about him in last three months). And started speaking with him in a super caring way and slowly it sounded more like flirting. After some thirty (30) minutes she started talking about how much she is worried about him and miss him. Based on that discussion, I was sure they spend lot of time talking everyday and very close (not family members for sure). While talking, she was about to hit the trash bin on the left side of the road, so I kinda said “watch out” involuntarily. Hell broke lose, she got super upset because the dude on the call heard my voice and asked “who is that with you”. She disconnected call abruptly and yelled at me and upset about her reputation. Basically treated me like a crap with her face expression and the sigh. I felt so sad and confused. I apologized and just kept looking at my phone and acting busy. And she called again and continued to talk with him. I just wanted to disappear or not-exist at that moment. Few minutes later we reached location where my car is parked, I hopped in and drove home. She kinda understood I was upset because I did not say anything while leaving. So she sent “sorry IF I hurt you”. I said “its ok”. And never texted her and blocked her that evening. Its been two weeks.
Additional info, he is currently in a different country (a stupid state nobody goes for vacation). And this girl is flying to the same country and same state for vacation in December and saving money for this trip (it is beyond her pay check for sure). She did not mention that she is going to meet him. But when I connect the dots it felt she is going to meet him.
I loved her so much. It feels like blocking her was a hasty decision. May be I misunderstood something. Im confused. Somewhere I believe may be she liked me or loved me for real. But I know she never did.
I don’t know what to do now!!
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Hey man, I’m sorry for the blow. It sound like to me that she isn’t worth your time though. If someone you are romantically interested in and consistently taking out on dates is calling another guy in front of you in a flirtatious manner. This is a sign of disrespect.
Move on my friend. It is for the best.
>She disconnected call abruptly and yelled at me and upset about her reputation.
She’s more worried about her ‘reputation’ with this other guy on the phone than you, then you’re just a ‘friend’ she doesn’t want the guy on the phone to think you’re a real romantic opportunity.
She’s obviously more into this guy than you. And her being on the phone for 30 minutes with you next to her is disrespectful AF. The polite and proper thing for her to do is tell the guy, “hey, I’m out at the moment, call you back later” – off the phone in less than a minute. She’s on the phone for 30 minutes while I’m hanging around like her butler? F all that noise. She deserves to be blocked. And keep her blocked. As far as I’m concerned, she should be dead to you.
She friend zoned you and was most likely stringing you along. I’m sorry man that sucks, just break all contact time will heal you.