I have been dating my girlfriend for about 7 months and we have recently started a long distance because both our colleges have opened. In her college, there’s this guy(20M) who confessed that he liked my gf and my gf thought he was sweet and she let him know that she’s not single but she can be friends with him.
So they have had multiple casual encounters but two days back, he called my gf to his car for something and talked to her alone. He tried to show his superiority to her by holding her face as to stop her from saying anything (which was a red flag my gf chose to ignore). At the end of their meeting in his car two days back, he pulled out a gun just to show off. A little more background about that guy, he’s the most popular guy in the college and everyone is scared of him, he’s super rich. Fast forward to yesterday, he told my gf he doesn’t like her mentioning me(her bf) or other guys she’s friends with. And another instance that happened was when they were talking and my gf’s friends called her to class and my gf told that guy that she has to go and the guy asked her to stay to which she said that she has to go, the guy scared my gf saying: “You are going to say no to me?” to which my scared gf had to say okay but I will stay only for like 5 minutes. My gf also told me that before yesterday his touch felt comfortable and friendly. But yesterday it gave her shivers and she’s too scared to resist.
I feel so helpless because I sit 3k kilometers away from her and she has to face this situation alone. Today she told me she wants to distance herself from the guy but she is scared of that guy. I asked her if she has any more trustworthy guy friends there, she said there is one but he is best friends with the guy. I have no idea how to help her sitting here and I want to at least guide her out of this problem. I want your suggestions on this problem because I need it.
TL;DR: The most popular guy in my gf’s college has scared my gf and is crossing boundaries to which my gf is scared to say no. My gf wants to distance herself but she is scared if she does, the guy will do something bad to him
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“Everyone’s scared of him”–has anyone reported this guy to the campus police or the dean of students or somebody? If nothing else, flashing a gun on campus is likely to get their attention.