What’s more attractive?

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1. Anal

2. Outspoken and confident-but-secretly-insecure-tomboy girlfriend with brash mannerisms and a vulgar tongue.

3. Whatever is consistent with the rest of your behavior.

   e.g. you are not comfortable with solo shots of yourself being posted or generally act reserved – probably acting shy with your person of interest will be more attractive because predictable behavior helps him act accordingly to you.

   On the other hand let’s say you are working as a porn star. Trying to act shy with a guy you like will not exactly make sense to a lot of men and that makes you less attractive (meaning fewer men would be interested, not that every man would find you less attractive).

4. Confidence in men, shyness in women.

5. Ass

6. When she goes after you.

   She is confident and knows what she wants.

7. Spiciness.

8. Shyness to attract, confidence to keep. Arrogance is never what one looks for in a relationship. Personally I would prefer them having that bravery just beneath the surface because I like seeing that blossom.

9. I prefer shyness but i think most girls prefer confidence

10. Genuine confidence. Not the bullshit feminist toxicity being branded as confident and independent.

11. Confidence. Children can be shy. Adults should learn to be confident in themselves.

12. to you – a self-made man or someone who inherited the wealth and is living off it A self-made man.

13. Confidence. I don’t find shyness attractive at all.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’ve dated shy women before and helped put them at ease to get over their shyness around me, but when the shyness sticks around I check out. It’s just too much effort, when there are so many women who will happily chat and be fun and social with me. I prefer bold women who say what they mean and go for what they want.

    But I understand that shy people don’t have much of a choice, so I don’t mean to be harsh. I’m sure it can’t be easy.

14. The two are not mutually exclusive. You can be shy and confident at the same time.

    Confidence is knowing how you feel and clearly and actively communicating that.

    Someone who can openly say “I’m shy so I won’t go on stage” or “I’m shy so I want to talk to you one-on-one” or “I’m shy so you need to give me time to warm up to a group of people” is both shy and confident.

    Confidence is a matter of clear and active communication. Any other flaw or characteristic can go together with it.

15. To most women; confidence.

    There is a very small amount of women however who go completely feral over a shy guy and will date them forever.

    Source; used to be very shy then gained confidence.

16. Confidence

17. Confidence, but not cockiness

18. Confidence doesn’t mean much if it doesn’t come attached to an attractive face and body.

    A woman can have all of the self-confidence in the world, but if she’s 5’4” at 170lbs and 40+% body fat percentage, I ain’t interested.

    Shy women are incredible boring and lackluster in bed. I remember hooking-up with this classmate of mine back in college and she was abou shy and insecure about her body which was pretty dumb, as she was pretty hot and had nothing to be self-conscious about.

    I stopped banging her mid-fuck and just got up and left because I was honestly bored to tears. Later on she asked me why I did it, to which I replied that I felt she wasn’t into it, only to be told by her that she was really attracted to me and was enjoying it.

    Then make it look like I’m not fucking a corpse, jesus christ.

19. Confidence

20. Confidence at my age shyness is too much work to deal with.

21. For me: confidence.

22. For women, I am attracted to confidence. Someone who can hold it down and doesn’t quietly/softly speak when ordering from a drive thru.

23. For a man? confidence.

    For a women? shyness.

    Two sides of a coin.

24. It’s confidence for me. I don’t really do well with people who don’t know what they want or aren’t able to articulate it.

25. It’s all an illusion… confidence from a person who’s not done anything to be confident about, is *VERY* unattractive, closer to a red flag.

    Shyness from someone who’s awesome, does awesome things, is a hassle… like I don’t mind holding your hand till your ready but like you’ve done this before and are great at it, everyone loves you, now being shy is just to maximize attention on you, needy… also an unattractive red flag.

    In Moderation, and when used appropriately both are just natural part of being human. Not necessarily attractive or unattractive, just are.

26. Healthy, nontoxic confidence.

27. Cute. I choose cute.