r/sex, I need some advice.
I’ve (20M) been dating my girlfriend (21F) for six months now. She was raised in a religious, sex shaming community but has always maintained a sex positive attitude. We’ve done all the discussion regarding sex, including sexual health, boundaries, fantasy’s, etc. My girlfriend struggled with vaginismus when we first started dating. I’ve been patient and we’ve worked together to move through it. We’ve had some amazing non penetrative sex and I’ve given her orgasms through oral sex. Now that we’re ready, how can I make losing her virginity a special moment?
1. How do I make sure she feels positive about the experience. Any redditors that were raised in a sex shaming community, what were some things partners said to you that made sex feel natural and good?
2. What are some good positions or tricks for losing your virginity? What made your virginity story great or horrible.
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I would ask women but frankly what’s going to make the difference isn’t the fact that some amazing world-class lover who went to eight schools of karmasutra in order to have your tongues swivel in four directions.
Get a hotel room so that there is no rush, there’s no stress that people walking in ETC so that you both can actually relax.
Have a nice dinner don’t eat too much but have a nice dinner make it romantic.
She isn’t going to remember whether you had a 4-in dick or a 12-in one but she will remember that we had a really nice dinner and that there were candles in the room.
Everybody’s idea of romance is a little different but flowers in the room is not a bad idea.
Then when she takes off her clothes even if there’s spiders crawling out of her vagina tell her it is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen in your entire life and you can’t wait to taste her.
Turn your fucking cell phones off.
Make her feel beautiful and everything else will come effortlessly
Before you cut the mustard make sure you lick the jar…