Those of you that managed to turn your life around after hitting rock bottom, how?

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  2. 1. Identifying why my life felt it was at rock bottom

    2. Identifying what was in my power to change

    3. Do at least one thing each day to enact that change. Some days I manage a marathon, some days I manage a 10 foot hop. Doesn’t matter, as long as I do *something*

    4. Acknowledging that the only thing I can change is things about myself. That means how I act, and, most importantly, how I react. Toxic friend? Cut em out. Done and dusted.

    5. Leaving my comfort zone.

  3. I stopped trying to do absolutely every goddamn thing by myself and accepted the help my friends and family had been offering for years but I was to proud to take.

    I’m aware I was very, very lucky that they hadn’t given up on me yet.

  4. In process rn.
    Im not sure how to do this tbh. But im doing it.
    Ive just resigned to telling myself these are musts and i cant keep putting myself off.

  6. I wouldnt say Rock Bottom, but in my mid 20s I had left a nice government job and didnt know what I wanted to do. I was working overnight at a gym listening to my stoner loser coworker (he really is a loser, dude was spending 300 a week on weed and living with mommy and daddy) talk about WOW, and decided, fuck this, I am going back to school. Now I make three times as much money and am in a professional field again.

  7. I retrospecively analyzed what brought me down.

    Simple : I loved someone I knew didn’t loved me, tryed to figure why it was happening to me, I came the conclusion that I was the problem and kept repeating that to myself until I was in depression.

    I’m the one who brought myself down because I didn’t had the right mindset and tried to figure out an answer to a question that doesn’t really have one : “why ?”

    When I finally told her she declined but was so respectful and caring that I realized that she was just not as attracted to me as I was attracted to her. It freed me instead of hurting.

    And then I understood how I was functioning at the time and it basically allowed me to read and understand how people around me think and behave (I got 130+ IQ). I use that to help others and give advice.

    My message for you is that in life, things just happens and it’s not your fault it’s just how it is. You can choose to waste your energy on trying to blame someone or see where your reactions were wrong, grow from that and actually try to solve the issue

  8. Lost my business at the onset of COVID. Was barely clearing $30k in take home income and overnight had nothing.

    Acquired a tangible, valuable skill and leveraged that exponentially.

    First I learned how to refurbish computers, which got me comfortable enough to teach myself to program, which made me hirable, which gave me a career.

    Quintupled my earnings over 3 years. everything was easier once I became financially stable.

  9. Updated my resume and got a better job. Made serious moves to retrain in a higher paying field. Moved away from my alcoholic roommate. Quit self medicating with weed and alcohol. Began working out every day. Cut out time wasters and started more productive hobbies.

  10. Identified all of my toxic traits, took steps to correct them and replace them with traits I could actually be proud of.

    Started taking care of myself, physically and mentally.

  12. Distanced myself from negative people who were making me feel crappy about myself

    Made better friends

    Got therapy (free through uni) to address my mental health issues at the time

    Started lifting

  13. TLDR: hard work, a stroke of luck, and a great support. Oh and, don’t listen to all these people talking about you shouldn’t go with such and such because high interest rate hell. I mean sure, if you’re finance saavy, but I’m not. You gotta do what you gotta do.

    My favorite quote during this time, and to this day: There’s only one way to do it! You just gotta do it.

    To share a little bit, without making it too long. After moving out of the house, and moving into my first apartment by age 21. Mom and dad were divorcing, my mother decided that rather than living with my father in a 3 bedroom house they had just bought with insurance money after a business they owned caught fire, that she wanted to move in with me.

    Me being young and naïve, I accepted, not really thinking anything of it. Well, only a few months later, my mom decided that she no longer wanted to work a full time job… After we had only been in that apartment for about 6 months, without talking to me, or discussing, she just up and quit her job. I found her home at lunch time, (I only worked about 10 minutes away at the time, so I popped in to make a sandwich for lunches), and she told me she quit her job.

    Anyway, just shortly after that, she moved out with her new boyfriend of 2 months at the time, to live with him, leaving me to support a 2 bedroom, 2 bath apartment, on a 15$ an hour income in my first IT job, the job of which I ended up getting fired from (My own fault) about 2 months after.

    Needless to say, I got evicted from that apartment, and my car got repossessed, all within 3 months of eachother. Now for those of you wondering, why is this rock bottom? Think of what this all means financially, because I am just now, 9 years later, able to recover from the devastating effects of all this. My credit score TANKED, I went from about 750, to literally 375. I had no income, no car. No job, no home.

    Thankfully, my dad still lived in their old house, without my moms permission at the time, but frankly, I didn’t give a shit, I was so mad at her. and he offered I could move back in under the pretense that I continued to look for a job. Of course I agreed.

    I got my dad’s van, and packed it up as much as I could, and moved my stuff into his house. Back into my old bedroom. Now for me, this was a completed, stroke of luck. But my old employer, of the IT job I got fired from, was having a hard time finding a replacement so suddenly, and someone who wouldn’t need several months of training. Reluctantly, I agreed, telling my boss I would need 15$ an hour, since it was not a permanent job, it was only temporary, until they find a good replacement. Oh and also, I would need to borrow the company vehicle since I had no transportation to work. He also agreed to that.

    So now I have a home, and a car, check. Temporarily at least. So with my first paycheck, I had JUST heard about these places called “buy here pay now” car sales places. If you don’t know, they will sell you an old beater, or a used car, for a pretty decent price at a high interest rate, to anyone with shitty credit. To me, I just needed something to get me to work and back. So I took my first paycheck, and made a down payment on a 2003 honda civic, with 150,000 miles on it. I got approved and my dad took me to pick up the car, the following day.

    Now I have a home and a car, so now I need to find a job, a real job. After many many applications, and a lot of emails, I got offered to get an interview with a local media company, doing IT helpdesk. I ended up working there for 5 years, making 21.63$ an hour, a pay rate, I still remember to this day lol.

    Anyway, fast forward to day, now officially 9 years later, my credit score has finally gone back up to 600, I now have a car that is newer, and HAS BLUETOOTH! LOL, 150,000 miles on it, and am moving back into an apartment on my own, with a government job that I absolutely love. I could not be more blessed and happier.

    Moral of my story is, through hard work, a stroke of luck, and a great support. Ironically my best friend of 9 years now, is the replacement that had replaced me at my first IT job that I got fired from. He and I still laugh about it, because he just quit there 6 months ago.

  14. 1. Hit the gym. It’s been said a thousand times, but gym is like a temple for your mind. When I go there, my mind has the sole focus of myself and I stopped thinking about other things not going so well. Fitness is also a keystone habit in changing your other habits like smoking, eating healthy etc.
    2. Purge your environment & friend circle. Every time I went through a breakup, I changed my phone and my living space first. Then start weeding out the friends that don’t help you, that are not there for you to celebrate your wins (albeit small) and grieve with you. It’s a waste of time, you don’t need them.
    3. Start a new endeavor. Not saying you should build a business, but I find that most creative pursuits are accelerated after you’ve gone through rough times. For me it was starting a band/ playing drums.

    Bonus: Find a friend who is not afraid to call you out. They keep you in check. If you have the finances, go do therapy.

    After all of that and you are in a better place, start looking back & see where you’ve gone wrong. Be brutally honest with yourself. Those who don’t learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat it.

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  16. Changed career to a growth industry rather than a shrinking industry, there’s opportunities for days in my new thing.

  19. The biggest thing about turning your life around is you have to really want to change. To the point that nothing else comes before the want to change.

  20. This is going to sound weird. I’m comfortable with Rock Bottom, being there. My bottom is having nothing. I’m so use to having nothing that anything that I do get is an achievement to me.

    Having to live in a homeless shelter…All it is to me is Basic Training. You start new, you can head in any direction…in any city and in any state.

    I’ve been asked… When are you going to stop going from job to job and have a career. I do, I’m a Cook with 45 years experience. I know my way around any kitchen. Okay, so when are you going to get your own place and stop living in shelters then? Again, another New Beginning in a city/state ive never been to before. Hey but I’m working, can I get that credit. Yeah, but don’t you want to settle down? Yeah I do but I only have so many years walking this planet and I want to see and do everything I can up until the time I can’t..then I’ll have the memories.

    I say… Everyone has a role to play in life. Some have more than one. Look at it this way… There is someone out there just waiting to meet you, waiting for you to cross their path.

    That old saying.. When you hit bottom, there is only one way you can go is up. Okay. So my up THIS time is 15 degrees to the left because last time it was 45 degrees to the right and the people, places and things I’ve done..WOW!! Can I do it again and again? I don’t see why not.

    Your rise going up from bottom is never the same. Take those experiences from past rises to the top along with you. You know what works and what doesn’t. I’m not ashamed of my past and I have no regrets. Besides, I’m not finished yet.

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