Td;lr So I met a guy on Bumble who doesn’t live in the same state as me about 10 months before I started dating my current boyfriend. The guy and I would send flirtatious snaps before I began dating my boyfriend, but as soon as I told him I was seeing someone we became completely platonic friends (no romantic feelings).
He even thought we were cute and congratulated me. We would just send each other food, pet pictures or friendly snaps. I recently saw a tik tok that said if you keep in touch with someone you met on a dating app, that is considered “cheating”.
I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and have never sent the guy a flirty Snapchat since I’ve been dating, and he hasn’t sent one to me. After I saw that tik tok I immediately deleted my entire Snapchat, because in no way did I want to be a cheater. Did I actually do something wrong or am I being overdramatic? I tend to worry about things. I would never want to hurt my boyfriend. Thanks!
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Cheating is breaking the agreed boundaries in your relationship. If you and your boyfriend haven’t actually established what those boundaries are, then you should do so. Removing a friend because somebody on Tik Tok has a relationship where that would be a violation of your boundaries is an overreaction unless you are in a relationship with that particular person on Tik Tok. You are with your boyfriend, so what you two agree on is what matters, not what somebody else’s relationship is like.
So are you never gonna have any guy friends in the future?
As far as I am concerned, you didn’t do anything wrong.
You have no real-life relationship with this person. I assume “flirty” doesn’t mean nudes? You told him about your BF. He was happy for you. You stopped the flirty texts. To me, you just transitioned to friends.
I am friends with a couple of people who I met on dating apps where there was no real romantic or sexual relationship that ever developed for various reasons – but we ended up friends instead.
As long as everyone is aware and on board and nothing shady is going on, I see no problem with this personally.
As you’ve described it I would not say you’re in the wrong. Being overdramatic?- hell yes. Don’t let tiktok dictate your life or your relationships.