Advice on how to start sending my husband sexy pics…
My husband and I have been together for 20 years. I have never sent him sexy pics, even when we were young and long distance. It wasn’t something he ever asked for and I didn’t know how to broach the subject.
So, recently, some stuff happened and we went through a really rocky period. Things are better now, but one of the things that came out was that we both wanted to be more open sexually (we have a very active sex life but it’s pretty vanilla)… I want to try and spice things up, but, I don’t know how to start. I’m happy to send the pics, but… what do I say?
What do I do? How do I do this? Like, a Tuesday afternoon? Just something suggestive to start, or just go for it? He literally said, “Shock me.”
Any good advice?
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Her: *Tell him what you’d like to do to him with the pic.
Him: *tent in his pants
Get an outfit (lingerie, just a bra/pantry set) that makes you feel confident and powerful! Read up on some articles on body position and angles. Look at other women’s boudoir pictures to get some ideas of positions/angles that are flattering (this is 100% more so for you, guys don’t care nearly as much). Leave some room for imagination. It’s artful seduction, not porn (if you want to, build up to porn level nudity over several different pictures!)
Even a picture of your nipples being hard under a slightly see through shirt can drive a guy wild! Play with it! Selfie sticks help a lot of achieve certain angles and if you’re feeling super extra, a tripod opens up a whole new world. I very rarely include my face because that level of anonymity makes me excited about sending sexy pics. I typically use Snapchat to send the pics and don’t say anything 🤣 he knows not to open snapchats from me unless in private. Typically I send them when he’s at work and I think of him. I also take extras so that even if I’m not feeling super sexy in the moment, I have something in my back pocket. Even pulling panties up slightly around your hip can really change how a picture turns out. But know that he will likely appreciate anything so a lot of these tips are for you!
Start slow and be a tease. Drive him crazy! Little bit here and a little bit there. Small samples. Work your way up.
I say go full throttle. Some suggestions: short skirt no panties and legs open shot, video of you playing with yourself, pic in short skirt crouched over camera, pic of boobs with and without sexy bra, slow mo video of you in your favourite lingerie with heels walking towards a camera – captions like: dinner is waiting…, can’t wait etc. Because these things are out of your norm it’s exciting and could foster great discussions on what he/you enjoyed and what else you’d like to see. You should also encourage him to send dick pics or videos of him masturbating as well if those could be interesting to you. Wishing you both a very exciting experience!
Wear a white tshirt in the shower and take some pics. Next, soap up your tits and take pics up close. You’ll see what he likes based on those first pics. And you don’t have to say anything, just send them. If you do, you can just say something small like “wish you were here” or whatever
Wear something spicy, take a picture that shows your backside and let’s him guess what might be going on in the front. Text him. “You will only find out what’s on the other side in person.”
Being a bit secretive is the key, I think. It should be a hint of dirty, but not too vulgar.
Or, send a picture of an item that you could use for some spicy stuff or that you would wear. And say “guess what happens next”
I’d treat it like foreplay. Yes your husband wants to be shocked but if you’re new to it it can be intimidating.
One of my husband’s favourite videos of me is super subtle. Selfie cam on walking down mall stairs with a low cut shirt. Boobs bouncing all about the place but not OTT. Little moments like that are a huge turn on apparently. Or a bent over short Summer dress shot.
This has to be a good experience for you, too. I suggest a dress up session and taking multiple shots. Max of 30 mins, you can have a pic bank and send throughout the week. It really helped boost my sexual confidence, did it consistently for a couple of years after we had our kids and it was nice to kind of detach from the Mom role.
Or going through the drive through and getting an upskirt pantyless video. Have a little story around it. Enjoy it!
They don’t have to be graphic nudes. Dip your toe in the water. Send lewds first. Do what you’re comfortable with. You don’t have to be completely naked. You can just start with deep cleave and suggestive face.
You don’t have to do spread eagle or full on masturbation. Find some poses you like. Set up your camera to record a video. Do poses. Pause the video when you like a pose and screenshot
On Tuesday send him pictures of your breast and call it titty Tuesday!