What do you do if your partner doesn’t want to get married?

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1. I wouldn’t have cared. Marriage isn’t that important to me besides the tax benefits. So not getting married would have been totally fine as well.

2. Say “oh phew me neither”.

3. Be happy we have the same, compatible wants (i.e. not wanting marriage).

4. I was always against marriage but not for what it stands for but the idea that I’m inviting the government or church into my love life. Generally I’m more of a fan of cohabiting for life.

5. I’m the one who doesn’t feel the *need* to get married. We’ve spoken about it a lot and we’re willing to meet in the middle. My reasoning for not wanting to get married is because I don’t like the idea of having a massive wedding which I feel is more for other people than what it is for us. He wanted a larger wedding since he has a lot of family but we’re coming to a compromise but he respected my wishes if I didn’t want to get married, as did I with his want to get married. I think you need to respect each others wishes or come to some sort of compromise, we’ve went for the latter but realistically we won’t be in any rush to get married so things might change before then.

6. Depends. If you don’t want to get married either or don’t really care then it’s all good. But if you really want to and care about it then you need to have a serious discussion. If it’s something that they absolutely will never consider then I don’t see a possible future.

7. Move onto someone that does ? 🤷‍♀️

8. Not sure if you’re asking advice or what I’d do in particular. I’m getting married in 2 months and if he suddenly decided that I’d be really upset after all this. As far as advice, I’d say determine how important marriage is to you. If it’s something you absolutely want, then it’s a compatibility issue. Don’t try to force someone into marriage or assume you’ll be able to change their mind.

9. Be thrilled, and hope he has the same energy about not living together because I will never live with a man again.

10. For me that’s a deal breaker. If not for anything but safety and security of our lives. If either of us got into an accident or something happened, we could be there without any hassle. The sad fact is that married couples are more “valid” in the big parts of life

11. Celebrate, as I also do not want to get married.