I don’t know why, but I’m very into the idea of my girlfriend telling me about her sexual encounters with previous partners. I don’t think I’m a cuckold because I don’t want to see her be with someone else currently, just hear about the past. Also, how do I even tell her that I want to hear these things? Anytime I’ve even asked a probing question she freaks out and tells me she doesn’t like talking about the past and it makes her feel weird.
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Have you explained how much you love hearing it all or do you just ask?
Well, she might just not be comfortable with it. And that’s okay. What might help is if you explain, or if you have a conversation about it because maybe even you’re not quite sure, what you find exciting about it. Let her talk about what makes her feel uncomfortable too. I’ve heard it called “hotpast” by the way.
Fwiw, I am in a similar situation, genders reversed. I like to hear about his “hot past” with others, but he doesn’t really like to talk about it for reasons that are his. Glad when he indulges though!